My Dad Just Called

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My ex-elder Dad and Mom, just called. (speaker phone) Dad wished me a Happy Birthday. OMG What is up with this??? He did the same thing last year. It has bothered me ever since. I only speak to them about 4 times a year, and it feels sooo stiff, when I do.

I talk with my un-baptised sister quite often, she lives in the same town as my parents. She passes along all info on how my family is doing. I can tell they are trying to be very nice and upbeat. My Dad was removed as an elder because of us kids. We were good in worldly standards.

#1 son, DF'ed, for having an affair while regular pioneering, with 2 regular pioneer sisters at age 19. He is on one of his disappearing acts right now. They usually last about 5 years, each time. This one started 6 months ago. Married and Divorced 4 times.

#2 me. Pretty good, until my personal life spiraled out of control, and stopped everything JW, Got married to un-believer. Divorced. Remarried Worldly

#3 son Favorite of parents. Reproved, after marriage at 18, in the Kingdom Hall, for having too much fun before marriage. Divorced, Remarried Years later, to become Elder, here-in-after to be refered to as the "Pious Pustule". Married to regular pioneer.

#4 daughter Late in life baby. Can do no wrong. Very nice, intelligent, Unbaptised. Married worldly.

Found out just recently, that they were stumbled, because of all of the rumors going around when dad was removed. I knew that they were irregular, but had no idea it was that bad. Now I am here on JWD, learning, and mom has had a several close calls with death. LONG STORY, Said no to blood, several times. Now they are going back. DAMN Sundays by phone, Thursdays in person, wheelchair for mom and all.

Nothing like a close call to drive a JW back to the hall. Even if I would have been here earlier, I don't know if I could have approached my dad. I have posted before, that he is a man of very few words. 10 feet tall. Not that I idolize him, but he is unapproachable. Mom is just nuts. She would have turned me in, for being apostate. She asked child a couple of years ago if I went to church.

So..... back to it...sorry, How could this man, with mom sitting next to him, call and wish me a Happy Birthday? And why does it bother me????? HL

Confession

And why does it bother me?

Don't know, dear, but it certainly sounds like a positive thing to me.

Lady Lee

And why does it bother me?????

How about the hypocrasy of it all?

BTW Happy Birthday

GoingGoingGone

And why does it bother me?????

Maybe you're sort of wondering what he's up to... like if he has an alterior motive? I feel that way with my mother...

GGG

horrible life

Lets see if I can explain it.

He was such a superior witness. I mean good. When he and I went in service, he was awesome. His talks were always enjoyed. Every Witness in Oklahoma had heard of him. And in other states. I bet, if I said his name, somebody would have heard of him here.

He worked at his high profile job.

Was the best JW speaker and elder, you have ever seen.

The best husband a wife could ask for.

Probably said less than 1000 words to me, in my teen life. How could the best DuB in the world, wish you a Happy Birthday????

Confession

Your description is pretty much how some (including my daughter) would have described me just a few years ago. People can finally get hit by the clue bus.

Cygnus

I grew up in a JW household, and also had 3 siblings. My dad always led us in a rousing "Happy Birthdate XXXXX". I think more and more JWs are reverting to trying to be good people (somewhat like CT Russell's character development), making the ransom doctrine their main theological concern, and relegating the rules from the 50s through the 80s as outdated and pushing the 35 and under crowd out of the organization, so they're becoming more lenient. Besides, the 35 and under crowd is learning not to take any crap from anybody. So when the DO says from the assembly hall platform 'if you can't do what we did when we were your age, we don't want you', they say OK, adios. Since that approach obviously hasn't worked, older ones take it easier on younger ones and aren't nearly as strict. At least I hope it's starting to work that way.

bem

(((((((HL))))))) Parents can be so hurtful and confusing. Hoping your feeling better soon.

Dorothy

My Dad Just Called

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