Hi all, the goods coming from Sir's appraisal of the elders school (great job, btw!) are very upsetting... I know I'm very angry about what the Leaders are being told to do, and I can see it in everybody elses comments too. Just thought I'd try an exercise to bring a bit more joy into our lives at this time....
What have you achieved since escaping the cult? In spite of the anger, the loneliness and confusion, you must have been able to do something with your new freedom... where has it taken you so far? What do you look forward to now?
Mine: I've started a marriage that's made me happier than I knew I could be. We're planning our city house and our rural farm. I've also just started that education I didn't get into when I was a pioneering A-student. I look forward to travel plans, improving my snowsports skills, upgrading my motorbike, getting what it takes to move into a more interesting line of work, and seeing what comes after that.
Not letting myself be trampled on. Asserting my rights. Refusing to be dominated. Getting an education and enjoying learning everything I can.
Attempting to not let emotional black mail work on me, this is a work in progress
Most importantly, living my life as a good person because I want to do it, not because I am being bullied into it by emotional threats of disappointing god/family/the org/etc/insert what you like here.
I say this in my head often ( ok and out loud too! sshhhh! it's a little embarrassing ) "I do enough and I am good enough"
