Pre wedding talk

loosie

Ok the comment undercover made on another thread brought this to mind. What is a pre-wedding "counsel talk"?

I eloped so I never had one.

Can anyone here tell me what is said in this "talk"?

Well, I don't know that it was a required thing to do or not. Maybe a former elder could expound on that. But I remember a few of my friends talking about having to sit down with the elder who was gonna give the talk and they would cover some material in the "Family" book with them.

I don't remember doing this myself however. The elder that married us was a family friend and didn't always follow protocol. I think that maybe it wasn't a direct requirement or he just let us slide.

Seeker4

Anyone giving an official JW wedding talk was supposed to meet with the couple a few times prior to the wedding to talk with them about marriage, making it a success, etc.

The last wedding talk I gave was shortly before I left the Witnesses. I was no longer an elder or a MS, but to my surprise, the local elders OK'd it. It was held in a field, not a Kingdom Hall. Knowing it was one of my last official acts as a JW, I actually quoted more from the Tao Te Ching than I did the Bible.

S4

PoppyR

Cant talk from an elders point of view (for I am a mere woman!) but before you are allowed to get married in the Kingdom Hall the elder doing your wedding talk has to have a chat with you about your conduct while courting. It varies from a 2 minute discussion to a full blown study. He has to ask if you have been chaste while courting basically. And everybody lies...

Poppy x

geevee

There are a couple of letters from the society and some watchtower articles that are supposed to be discussed with the couple before they can get married in the KHall if the local body give them their approval. These letters cover heaps of stuff regarding the arrangements like size of the gathering, music, speeches, bands, alcohol etc. Also the amount/type of expressions of affections shown.......whether they have, you know....done it.....how far they have gone......all these things.

IP_SEC

Who will be the Director of the feast?

Have you kept your courtship clean?

Some kind fatherly advice to the couple about weddings, marrige and the like.

Drag out the articles on weddings and receptions to ensure compliance.

loosie

ok so basic rules and regulations stuff.

I thought they tell in what position you can do it in after you are married.

LuckyNun

not myself, but I can imagine it's rather horrifying. I suspect there are diagrams and a Powerpoint presentation for the more thick-skulled couples.

how could elders do premarital counseling? half the elders I knew growing up didn't sleep in the same bedroom as their wives!

I learned WAY too much going out in service with elders' wives.

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