The flow of life is a beautiful thing. If we dedicate ourselves to a cause... a loving cause... then we often find it takes a flow all of it's own.
Go with the flow that you dedicate yourself to. Certainly once in a while give it a nudge in the right direction... but generally you can't go wrong. Learn to appreciate the moment for what it can offer, whether it be pleasure, or a painful lesson.
We learn to recognize milestones, moments that define our life-course at that time. You'll find them to be reassuring. When you recognize it, you'll realize that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
Always in love.
KJ