by mkr32208 8 Replies latest jw friends
My wife and I are both out. Her parents and my parents are all still in... Not only that but my parents aren't balanced enough to handle the kids so they are right out! Her mom's health is bad but I think they could handle the kids but the would "try" to raise them as witnesses, nothing we could leave in writing or say would change that! (I say "try" because even though her dads been an elder for like 20+ years my wife and both her brothers are all out!)
I just don't know... Venting I guess...
Do you have some young, trustworthy friends, a married couple, perhaps. Whoever you pick, be sure to talk it over with them. Make it legally tight.
Blondie
One or both of your wife's brothers?
S
Yes I was going to suggest siblings also....
I knew some JW's that arranged that should they die the custody of the kids would be with the SO family. Instead of their own. So that they would be raised JW's. So sad when you think about it.
If you don't have any really close friends or relatives then it looks like your kids are in for troubble. Keep on living, that's your best bet. Mabye have in your will a stipulation that says they have to read Crisis of Conscience before they can inherit your money.
mmmm thats a toughie, i guess im lucky in a way that if i died my ex hubby or hubby would get custody (most likely ex) and he is d\f so there is no chance of him being brought up in the borg.
But the suggestion of brothers and sisters may be a good one?????
es
I have not thought about that for a while. I difinitly want some one that is not a JW.
My husand and I have the same worry. I wouldnt leave my children to neither of our parents, not mine because of the jw thing and not my husband because of his mother's history of extreme physical abuse. I think it's time we made out a will...
Josie
You should name someone immediately, especially if you don't want the children to go to the next of kin, or in the event the next of kin die or become disabled or sickly. You may have the option to stipulate legal guardians in addition to next of kin for child custody. You can also specify religious training in a legal document. If you're concerned and don't trust the guardians to the childrens' religious training, establish a trust account providing for education in a parochial school that will be binding until they are of age.
It's not pleasant to think about, but please, plan for your childrens' futures now. You have no way of knowing what tomorrow might bring...
