Hello all,
This is my first time so I hope I don't sound too pathetic.
My situation is this: I am not a JW, but I am in love with a girl who was raised a JW. We've been together for 4+ years and I would like nothing more than to marry her. She has been what I guess you'd call "inactive" for almost two years, but I don't think her convictions have weakened any. At first I thought we could just "agree to disagree", and that I'd be cool with that. But, when it comes right down to it, there are obviously issues here(duh). I am not only concerned about her, but her soul as well. And then there's the issue of how we'd raise our children. Don't underestimate me - this is not puppy-love and I've been mulling this over for almost 5 years. I pray and pray for God to use me to touch her heart, but I just don't know how. I have purchased dozens of books and read them all.
Everything I've read leads me to believe that I need to create doubt in her mind about the WTS' authority and infallibility. Apparently, the best way to do this is to show her old WT literature, but if I were to just spring that on her, she'd know in a second what I was trying to do.
Ayway, my question is to all of you who were born and raised JW. What first sparked that initial doubt in your mind and what happened next?
Please help if you can.
by broken 6 Replies latest jw experiences
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broken
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jayhawk1
I would suggest you post this on the main board so you can get more responses. Maximus, AlanF would be the ones I recommend you talk to.
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waiting
Hello broken,
It's nice to meet you - all kinds here. I believe it's CPiolo who has a wife who's a jw, and he's not. I'm a jw woman who's 50, been in since I was 20 - now inactive and never going back.
You didn't say how old you and your girlfriend are? One way to help her to keep on sliding away is to get her involved in others organizations, not necessarily religious. How about volunteering together? Sports? Recreation? Making friends outside the org is a great help.
If she's not willing to read anything against the org., your job is harder. I know other young adults who are inactive, but feel that they'd be a jw before anything else - but they don't really know they religion. Would she be willing to join a religious bible study group in another church? Something mainstream?
Anyway, others will have good suggestions here - they always do!
waiting
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broken
Thank for your quick reply!
We're both late twenties and NO she would definately NOT join in another religious study group. She won't even step foot into my church!
Her parents are very devout JWs, as is most of her family. -
kes152
broken,
Greetings, and may you have peace!
What I am about to say, you may not like it, but by the spirit of Christ I HAVE to say it. Please understand.
He said to tell you, you are not really concerned about her soul. You are concerned about satisfying your "craving" for companionship and for love and you know that she can satisfy that.
That was the first thing.
the NEXT thing, he said that if you want to help her soul, you can help her come out the organization, but you are attempting to mislead her to another "false christ." I PROMISE you, normally when JWs see that the JW organization is not the "truth" it claims to be, they can see straight through all other religions, INCLUDING yours.
If you really want to help her, the BEST thing is for you to lead her to Christ. For NO JW "knows" Christ, nor do they know he can be glorified (which means worshipped).
Revelation 5:9, 10, 12
If you want to lead her to Christ, first you must approach him and "come to know" him. Once you have beheld him "as he is," he will then SHOW you how to share him with others. The answer is NOT in books. You have to go STRAIGHT to Christ and ask him.
Some of the stuff he tells you, you don't pay attention to because you yourself don't believe it. And that is the reason you RESORTED to buying "books" written by MEN.
Ask him for 'faith' so that you can start believing what he tells you so that you can show her the Christ WITHOUT the need of "men." for MEN lie and decieve, but the Christ is NOT that way. He is mild, and LOWLY in heart. His load is LIGHT, not heavy like the WTBTS.
This is all I was permitted to "give" you, until then...
May you have peace!
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claudia
Kes, youre no better than the jws the way you are SO SURE jesus is talking to you. There is something wrong with your brain if you cannot see the similarity.
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Pacifica99
Broken,
You and my ex boyfriend should get together and talk! He feels very much like you. I know its hard for you to understand your girlfriends beliefs and with beliefs like hers well there is no way you can agree to disagree(trust me i know all to well). What you are trying to do is almost impossible to do. If she was going to let go of these beliefs she most likely would have already done so. To go against the beliefs JW's try to follow means possibility of not gaining everlasting life. Which is what active JW's are working to acheive. So if she has been raised in the truth, most likely the JW's core beliefs are the foundation to her belief system. Trying to change something that basic is as i said early almost impossible. Its something she will have to do. Love isnt enough in this situation, if it was my ex wouldnt be an ex. I hope this helps you understand your girlfriend better. Believe me when i say its not easy for her either. Best of luck to you.