Sex, Wine and Psychology

by metatron 2 Replies latest jw friends

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  metatron

  See:

  www.bestworldwines.com/wine-news71.html

  It seems that a popular porn star has branched out into fine wines and is winning rave reviews for the excellence of her product

  from wine professionals.

  When I read things like the above, I think back to the image of wanton, immoral people foisted on us by the Watchtower - people

  laden down with guilt, depression, and paralyzed by sin. It ain't necessarily so. I believe the same may go for people who were

  sexually abused - while I don't recommend taking up porn production as a career, clearly, lots of sexual activity doesn't stop you from being

  creative, clever or cheery in life. Another porn star ( Tiffany Million) was molested as a child and ended up as an aggressive entrepreneur

  of her own physical charms. Again, I don't recommend such a life style BUT I do note that she was not cowering or paralyzed by

  the weight of her past.

  The above represents some extremes of behavior that tells us that people can adapt to all sorts of things, if they don't cast themselves

  as victims . I say these things carefully because the past can be a terrible weight and burden and I don't dismiss that. It's a strange

  world we live in.....

  metatron
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  NewYork44M

  One of the things that helped me to transform myself and my attitude is listening to some "self help" tapes. I especially liked a tape series from Bryan Tracy. I can't listen to them now because they seem very simplistic and tripe but at the time the tapes were extremely helpful.

  One of his comments had to do with getting rid of the past. He likened all the past wrongs that were done to you as things you put in a knapsack. Whenever something does not go quite right you take all the stuff out of the knapsack and say things like "if only so-and-so didn't do this to me" or "if only my parents didn't do what they did" and so on..... Essentially his advice was that you have to forgive what has been done to you, appoligize for what you did to others, and take responsibility for your life going forward.

  What he described was a very powerful lesson to me. While I still sometimes hold on to some of these things that happened in the past I have really tried to follow his advice.

  Taking responsibility for your own actions is pretty scary, but it can be very rewarding.
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  delilah

  That was an interesting read, Metatron. It's nice to see these porn stars go on to "finer" things, . I too, enjoy fine wines....I have a glass of a fine red wine, preferably a Wolf Blass, and I forget about my dark past. I too, can transform into a "star" behind closed doors.

  Seriously though, as New York 44M said,Essentially his advice was that you have to forgive what has been done to you, appoligize for what you did to others, and take responsibility for your life going forward."This is so true. I forgave my abuser, and got on with my life. What a nice feeling, to have that weight lifted off my shoulders. Life is so much better now. I no longer look back, just forward, and life is sweet.