Got a Visit Yesterday

by Nosferatu 9 Replies latest jw friends

  • Nosferatu
    Nosferatu

    I was at home last night, fixing some 8-track tapes, when I got a knock at the door. The wife is out of town, so I'm wondering who the hell is knocking on my door.

    I opened it, and there was my mother and another lady from my old congregation. This lady is one of the few genuinely good people in the congregation. She's one of the exceptions that does volunteer work to help the poor, so I had no problem with letting them in and having a chat.

    She complimented me on my beautiful home, and asked me if I enjoy having my hair long. She also said, "Wow, you must be really happy in this new life with your wife." I really didn't know how to take that statement, but I told her that I was very happy!

    When they were leaving, my mother told me she was aux pioneering. I said, "Oh right, it's April." It really amazes me how they do this like clockwork in April not because they enjoy it, but because it's a yearly tradition.

    It really saddens me that this lady is still in the JW religion. It has brought her a lot of suffering. I've written about her before. One brother scammed her out of her life savings (and IMO deserved getting hit by the car that killed him). She wholeheartedly enjoys helping out the poor, and those who are in need in the congregation. When my family was going through a tough time, she brought us lots of food. She could do so much more good if she wasn't spending her time selling shitty magazines.

  • inbyathread
    inbyathread

    Did you verbalize that it is their yearly tradition? That would have gotten them to think.

  • Nosferatu
    Nosferatu
    Did you verbalize that it is their yearly tradition?

    I said "Oh yeah, it's April" out loud as they were leaving. Don't know if that got through, but there's always hope.

  • looking_glass
    looking_glass

    Sorry, I still am not able to get beyond the 8 track thing. For some reason I find this hysterical.

  • freedomlover
    freedomlover

    I can relate Nos.
    My grandma is one of those genuinely good people who is a witness. She is the one who brought my WHOLE family into "the truth." Even so, she is the most amazing woman I know, and I have more respect for her than I do for most anyone else in my life. She was always the rock in my very screwed up life. She was the one who never ever said one bad word about my dad when her daughter (my mom) and him were getting divorced. Unfortunately, she is stuck in a cult that she truly believes is the ONLY true religion. At this point in her life I don't see the point in showing her flaws in her belief system. Some people here think differently on that point, but that's how I feel about it. My grandma had her own problems, death of parents at a very young age, married an alcoholic, lost a son to a car accident at 14, etc. - so the witnesses gave her a hope that enabled her to survive in this life. I don't think it a kindness to tell her differently. I have resigned myself to just show unconditional love to people like her, even though they are still witnesses.

    Sounds like you were very kind to this woman and your mom. that was the best thing to do. I'm not all into "paying back" the witnesses. Not unless one of them crosses me - then they better watch out.

    I do know how the sadness feels for those type of good people, stuck in something that hasn't let them reach their full potential.

  • Nosferatu
    Nosferatu
    Sorry, I still am not able to get beyond the 8 track thing. For some reason I find this hysterical.

    It's all good!

  • Kerberos
    Kerberos

    I'm confused as to how you think her not being a JW would allow her to do so much more? It sounds like she cares for people because she is a nice person. Whether she helps other dubs or not shouldn't really matter.

  • Alana
    Alana
    I'm confused as to how you think her not being a JW would allow her to do so much more? It sounds like she cares for people because she is a nice person. Whether she helps other dubs or not shouldn't really matter.

    I understand it to mean that she could do much more, perhaps by volunteer work, helping in a food bank or food kitchen, meals on wheels, or any other secular program that reaches out to help others. As a JW that wouldn't be looked upon well at all, as that is helping wordly organizations, when every good JW knows that any 'extra' time you have should be focused only on JW-related activities. At least that is how it is in my neck of the woods.

  • Bumble Bee
    Bumble Bee

    Do you think they were counting time for your visit?

    BB

  • greendawn
    greendawn

    That's a very unusual JW doing a lot of charitable work, most of them are almost totally self centred and don't really care even for their own JW brothers when they are in need, even the ones that are very loyal to the org.

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