Okay, as I have said in the past my mom is normally a great mom. No worries, no probs. This morning was a different story. We have a don't ask don't tell policy in our family. I moved away from my family in order to have them not know that I am not an active JW and that I have BF, yada, yada, yada. I am sure my mother knows but never says anything. This system works for us. I let her tell me her stories - always JW stuff and I just sit and listen, usually about 10 minutes top and then we move on to other things.
So this morning I am talking to her on the phone because she is not in good health. I am checking up on her and she says
Mom: you know your nephew is getting baptized
Me: yes, i think it already happened
Mom: well you know why he is doing it don't you?
Me: No, because he wants to be a JW right
Mom: No, because he wants something out of me
Me: WHAT!!!
Mom: Well I am not going to fall for the whole I am so spiritual and all that because you know he leads a double life.
Me: WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT.
Mom: Well you know he and that other JW kid got into trouble and were stopped by the police
Me: Ya, for riding motorized dirt bikes on the public streets. They were fined and he has to pay the fine himself. What's the big deal.
Mom: That is [here it comes people, and i was about to blow] A REPROACH UPON JEHOVAH'S NAME.
Needless to say, the conversation then became very heated. And I came out and said to her finally "this is the crap that I will no longer put up with. I was a good kid growing up but JWs don't believe you can be good and still make mistakes. You are damned from the beginning." And here is the reason I don't get angry because I said some things that I will have to explain why I said it ... "You are a nasty spiteful JW. I will not live under a policing society and you should be ashamed of yourself. YOU ARE A REPROACH TO JEHOVAH. How dare you judge another human being, especially your grandson. You better get your head out of your @$$ otherwise one day you are going to find you are knee deep in $hit and no where to go."
Though to my mother's credit, she got quiet, changed the subject and said to me "do you really think I do that". HELL YEAH. The problem is that she will then discuss this with her fellow whackjobs JWs and they will agree with her and then she will revert to her "I am right and L_G is wrong" thinking.
I don't care that my mom is a JW, to each their own, but do not AND I MEAN DO NOT try and project evilness onto my nephew. He is a great kid. He is going to make mistakes but he learns from them and he is not mean spirited. It is never enough though for JWs, there is never enough that you can do, you should always be doing more, being better, more spiritual.
Okay, done venting. My GF (faded JW) was not answering her phone ... darn teacher that she is, refusing to answer the phone in her room during her school day. So I needed to vent to other people who would understand. Thanks for letting me vent. I do feel much better. And on that note, have a great day.