I am so pissed at the family court system. Did you know that there is a state which shall remain nameless at this point that by law requires child support to continue to the age of 21, or as long as the "child' is attending school (and they have to attend only part time, which at community college is usually 2 classes or about 6 credits) It is bad enough that the majority of teenagers today have an "entitlement mentality", but now there is a law that backs them up!!!
Kids don't even have to say thank you because they are "entitled" by the nature of the socialist crappy laws to do it!! It is their RIGHT to collect a free ride! By the way, kids of in tact families do not have the right to garnish their parents pay check for college money. They are S.O.O.L and have to do it the old fashioned way, either apply for loans or hope Mom & Dad pony up as a gift. My 2 children will not have the right to force me to pay for their college. They will likely get it as a gift, but they won't be able to use the court. The law in the state that my oldest childs support case resides forbids forcing parents to pay for college- it must be by mutual agreement and any amount given is after the child applies for any grants, loans or scholarships. My youngest will have an intact family come hell or high water. It is hugely unconstitutional to afford one class of people (children of divorce) the right to force their parents to pay for school when other children are not extended that right. And of course the child is not required to continue visitation, oh no, that would trample on their personal rights!!
Anything done for a child after the age of 18 should be completely voluntary, not forced by the court system.
Add the witness crap to the mix and I am hopping boiling mad. Not only are we being sued for a hugely disproportionate amount of money in comparison to the cost of the community college that the now adult child in question has alleged plans to attend (which we had already said we would voluntarily pay the cost of 100%) but he is going for a certificate program, not a diploma that will actually be useful, but a 2 year certificate!! To go with the huge attorney bill and the cost of traveling to argue this in court, we have the added blessing of being shunned now that the little pioneer angel is of the age of majority and has a responsibility to reject us! I find myself hoping that he gets accepted to bethel when he is 19 just so the support will end. If he is not talking to us anyways, why should he have the right to a huge chunk of his father's paycheck for the next 3 years?
All I want to know is when does the karma come back to bite the ex wife? Why does it seem that she can dish out bucket load after bucket load of crap and in return, she goes on all kinds of vacations, works a 40 hour work week while my husband works 2 jobs and 90 hours a week?? When is all that she dished out going to come back to her?? Why am I the one not sleeping? Why are we being rejected when she is the the wrist slashing psychotic mental case (bi-polar, BPD, OCD, you name it, she's got it? Why does going to the meetings qualify her for sainthood? We bent over backwards, financially and otherwise to give that child everything we possibly could, even when we couldn't afford it and now the most vile letters are being signed by both of them, claiming all kinds of crap and demanding his due as "first born" in the form of a large life insurance policy . Why does this stuff happen?