Let's Be REAL

by purplesofa 9 Replies latest jw friends

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  purplesofa

  about prayer, about GOD, about life, about who we are.

  The other day I was taking a call from my daughter at bootcamp. She is distressed and I found myself comforting her by saying remember Jehovah loves you.

  While driving and thinking, I asked GOD to look after her while she was in bootcamp......uggggggggggg...........

  Then I thought......why don't I tell her to call upon her own skills, to think, tell myself to remember that I raised a smart thinking girl that can take care of herself.

  Why discount the work that we have done in raising our children or discount our own determination, drive and ambition?

  I found more comfort and peace with this thinking than handing it over to some mysterious GOD, that I felt like if was truely her "father" would not have let her go to the army in the first place.

  I love and respect creation......nature, the planet, and I am perfectly happy in how it got here to be a mystery to me......it is no more mysterious to me than some being creating it.

  My thoughts for the morning.

  purps
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  arrowstar

  Then I thought......why don't I tell her to call upon her own skills, to think, tell myself to remember that I raised a smart thinking girl that can take care of herself.

  If she is anything at all like her mama, then she is a strong and caring woman who can take care of herself and so much more.

  Hey, hon....have a cup of coffee and sit a spell.

  Lisa
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  Satanus

  When we get into a situation we feel is beyond us or is a setback, we tend to fall back on familiar things from the past. It could be family or religion. Not sure how to deal w it. Perhaps just taking things a moment at a time.

  S
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  Joe Grundy

  Purplesofa:

  If it's any consolation at all, in my early 20s I did 10 weeks 'bootcamp'. It was police, not miltary, and it was in the UK, but it really was not that different - except for the law etc. classes.

  At the time, I thought I hated it. When I graduated, i was extemely proud of myself, and so were others.

  Looking back now, it was a great time. As others said to me - and I said to others - 'If you can't take a joke you shouldn't have joined'. Haha, it took me a long time to get the joke.

  Your daughter is already part way through this. When she completes it, she will feel proud of herself and will have had the benefit of an experience not too many get and fewer complete. However things go in the future, she'll always be able to say 'I did that' and I got through it. Something to be proud of.
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  juni

  Hi Purps!

  A question I've always asked myself was this: Would my kids have grown up any different if they weren't raised in the JWs org.?

  My answer is NO. I have a basic moral system, love and respect your neighbor, etc. so that's why they are what they are today. The JW org. only made for heartache in their lives. They all turned out to be good productive citizens w/wonderful families. No thanks to this religion which is hypocritical and they could see right through all of the crap.

  She'll be fine because she's had you as her mom. I'm a strong believer that we play a huge part in how our kids turn out. Consistent discipline with love. But they are their own person. So they are going to make choices that could turn out bad. But we also had that right when we were growing up. Don't be overly concerned Purps. Be there for her.

  Juni
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  purplesofa

  When we get into a situation we feel is beyond us or is a setback, we tend to fall back on familiar things from the past. It could be family or religion. Not sure how to deal w it. Perhaps just taking things a moment at a time.

  yes, its all new and different.
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  purplesofa

  The JW org. only made for heartache in their lives.

  That is for sure the truth.

  purps
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  purplesofa

  At the time, I thought I hated it. When I graduated, i was extemely proud of myself, and so were others.

  I think when she graduates it will be her proudest moment ever for her. She did write and say as bad as I hate it and want out, her main goal is to make it......and that when she talks to me, it is at her weakest moments.

  I miss her............I have learned so much from her being in my life........as with all my kids.

  purps
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  Joe Grundy

  purps:

  When you get low on this sort of thing, you really get low ....

  She's part-way through it already. It gets easier as you progress. Honestly.

  I have two adult children. Really, all you can do is bring them up and hope. I've been lucky. Hope you will be too. Good luck to your daughter.
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  purplesofa

  OK, here is the latest......

  she just called.

  A week ago she went to the PX or soemthing to buy a toothbrush.......which was against the rules.

  They took $600.00 from her pay and dropped her rank which means about a $250.00 per month drop in pay.

  She said she is getting out with an honorable discharge by pulling all her medical records before she went in.

  They will give her an honorable discharge and she will be out in about four weeks.

  Does this sound right?

  purps