Chicken and the last person picking...bear with me...

by Sparkplug 9 Replies latest jw friends

  • Sparkplug
    Sparkplug

    (I hope this makes sense)

    Mr. Sanders asked about 1000 people to buy his chicken recipe before he had a taker.
    Men in bars will ask 100 girls a night and if only one says yes, the purpose is served.

    Jw's ask the whole damn world and yep...they still have takers.

    What about you? How do you feel about playing the odds in life?

    Do you apply for 100 jobs...hit on 100 people, read a hundred books in the hopes that just one of those ideas will stick?

    Do you make 100 friends, play the lotto, test drive everything 100 times?

    I was a JW I always was a bit bugged that first came jah,

    then came Jesus, Then holy spirit, Angels, annointed, and then all of the governing body

    followed by the overseer, the the presiding overseer, the elders, then the MS'ers,

    all of the males, then all of the pioneers and old people, then the husband. .........................then the wife....if her husband allowed and it did not look bad to the neighbors, and it was in concideration of the whole congregation again. ..

    I always thought the cheese stands alone in that situation. It always felt as if I were the last person picked on the baseball team. Not very flattering. I had to check with a thousand everything** in order to put on the correct skirt length. Then if I was wrong I was about the 1000th person they would listen to. I was told that women were to be cherished (just AFTER everyone else)

    Did you ever want to be number one? Skip all the others and you get a say?

    And when you are picked after 100 people for a promotion, a date, a person that needs to be listened to, for friends, and in the picking of a guest list............................ do you feel like a one in a million.....................................? Or the last one picked?

  • Sparkplug
    Sparkplug

    Aw man.! It was not that hard.

  • carla
    carla

    Last one picked? yep, know that feeling. Only as ubm though, can't help with the jw view. I imagine it is somewhat similar except that as a ubm you can choose to look at your mate as somewhat metally ill. As a jw you would never question the gb or org in any way and blame yourself. Double the guilt for wanting a basic human emotion, wanting to be appreciated and wanted.

  • Sparkplug
    Sparkplug

    ? ubm ? What is that?

  • carla
    carla

    ubm? where ya been? unbelieving mate. never been jw, never will be! My jw didn't become one till acouple years ago after knowing him for 20+ years. The changes in him were profound to say the least. So, ya, I guess I know a little bit about being 'last picked', well I do now anyhow. Before? unthinkable. Now, everyday occurance.

  • Sparkplug
    Sparkplug

    Well I don't always catch the acronyms but I am learning. So, that is a very different viewpoint. I was a disfellowshipped wife of a JW for a bit and it must have been similar to that. I bet it has to be a terrible shock to find yourself in that position.

  • carla
    carla

    I'm just teasing you. I've seen your struggles and admire what you have acomplished.

  • cyd0099
    cyd0099

    But being so far down on the pecking order made it easy to hide. I didn't have to do anything or aspire to anything and it was easy to let dreams die among the routine of theocraticâ„¢ behavior.

  • Sparkplug
    Sparkplug

    Why thank Carla...never knew that.

    Clyde. Yes it was easy for some to hide....somehow I was just yanked out and chastised by the whole pecking order constantly. So now when I am trying for something I always remember that KFC guy and think....(It took 1000 tries) Then I don't feel so bad. Other things, well it is not so unpersonal, then I am really mad if I am put as 2nd 3rd, tenth place.

  • serendipity
    serendipity

    Hi Decki,

    It depends on what I'm chosen (or not chosen) for. I was glad I wasn't chosen for Jury duty - missed it by one person. But generally speaking, I like to be considered near the top. I didn't feel terribly marginalized as a JW, but I quit caring a long time ago.

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