Is this a new rule???

by talitha 4 Replies latest jw experiences

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  talitha

  Hello,

  Can someone please tell me if Im going crazy or if the JW'S just started this. I have been D'S For 15 years. My mom picked and coosed when she wanted to talk to me and then when she got real mad(because I was not coming back) I was told that I could nevr step foot on their property or say goodbye to my father who has Alzhiemers. She was hesterical! Now here is the funny part...My mother called me the next day and said...Why did you call your niece (Who is not a witness) she is upset. I about lost it. Yesterday My children and I are doomed and now you want info from me. I swear I would love to ask an Elder if this was ok. Oh and I posted my story a couple nights ago. I think I posted it wrong. I will try to re-post it later. Thanks

  Talitha

  To clarify my dads Alzhimers is to the point that he used to call me his friend from Canada....He also has had open heart surgery twice and congested heart failure once. Oh and I was Disfellowshiped. Whats the intials for that again?
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  OnTheWayOut

  Your mother is applying old rules, not new ones. You say "I have been D'S For 15 years."
  This means you were either disfellowshipped or disassociated, correct?

  Perhaps you mean "disassociated" and the rule is fairly unknown to you.
  You are to be shunned, treated as the antichrist, one who has abandoned the faith.
  
  She has been disloyal, talking to you in the past.

  I would see the father anyway, going with a non-JW family member or just showing up.
  Even if your mother has some legal control over your father, it just is not right, you deserve
  to see him.

  Don't bother asking elders anything. If there is no way to get past your mother, threaten
  legal action or consult a lawyer. She might back down, because deep down, she might think
  that seeing your family will help you come back, or deep down she feels you should see her
  and Dad- that's why she called again. Her loyalty to family and WTS are in conflict.
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  OnTheWayOut

  I read your story on your other post. You were disfellowshipped, so the directions to other JW's is clear. You are to be totally avoided.
  Still, your mother cannot have legal jurisdiction over your father if she has a history of these mental illnesses. She probably wants to see you, but there's that loyalty to WTS in her way. Go see your father.
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  juni

  Welcome Talitha to the board!

  Sounds like your mom is just mixed up over how she should view you? It's because this shunning practice is so nonsensical, but members don't want to get into trouble w/the organization.

  I feel for you w/the situation w/your Dad. If you don't speak about "spiritual things" w/your mom I don't see where anyone should have a problem w/your being by your Dad's side.

  Juni
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  hambeak

  Juni has very good advice. By all means make an attempt to see your father. How far along is his Alzheimers? If he doesn't remember you it might be more painful for you and might be better to remember him like he used to be.