Last night I went to my sister-in-law to be bridal shower. Everything was fine . . . no questions or comments like . . . "So where are you attending now?" "When are you going to return?" "We miss you." Or my favorite: "The friends miss you." An old friend that I used to be pretty close to was there. I loved this lady like an older sister. I was looking forward to seeing her. Everything was fine for a while. We talked and laughed almost the whole evening. Until she asked me who I lived with. I thought for a second and parted of me wanted to lie to keep the situation light and almost like old times. Of all people I thought she wouldn't judge me. So I just told the truth and said I live with my fiance. Her mood changed drastically. NO more laughing or much talking, she was only being polite after that. I'm not sure if she judged me and try to distance herself from me or she just felt uncomfortable. Now that I really think about it she was judging me. Knowing her she was probably thinking to herself that I am so bad because I know better. I just hope she doesn't get mad at my sisters for inviting me. I don't think she'll take as far as going to the elders. For the sake of my family I should have lied and said I live with a roommate.
Can't think of a title
by sandy 6 Replies latest jw experiences
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Gopher
How about POSSLQ? (Persons of Opposite Sex Sharing Living Quarters)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/POSSLQ
After the 1980 Census, against all odds, the term (pronounced "poss-el-cue") gained currency in the wider culture for a time, with CBS commentator Charles Osgood memorably composing a verse which began
- There's nothing that I wouldn't do
- If you would be my POSSLQ
- You live with me and I with you,
- And you will be my POSSLQ.
- I'll be your friend and so much more;
- That's what a POSSLQ is for.
Elliot Sperber, the writer of the Hartford Courant's weekly cryptogram, invented a cryptogram that (when solved) said:
- "Roses are Red,
- Violets are Blue,
- Won't you be my POSSLQ?"
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sandy
LOL Gopher, My own cousin seems to be shunning me now. A handful of times now he's done it so I'm sure he is shunning me. His own sister was baptized and left the org and became a born-again-christian and he doesn't shun her. It's not a great loss in my life that he totally ignores my presence. I just think it's totally hypocritical. I think I need to do a little damage control now. My sister told my niece that she doesn't want to know if I'm apostate. I guess my Dad old her some things about me that scared her. I just got a Christmas tree but I think I'll have to for-go decorating the outside of my house. My sister lives nearby and could drive by. She'll won't just pop in for fear of finding out I have a tree.
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MsMcDucket
Sandy, I understand how you feel. It's hard when someone who you respected, disrepects you. Don't let the woman get you down. I'd be more upset if it were my "fiance" taking a stand against me. . . you know what I mean?
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lesterd
My family hadnt been to a meeting in a year or so and the wife and kids really wanted Xmas, so we got a tree, Word got around and the elders called and wanted to ralk to us because they heard we we celebrating Xmas, it really spun their head when I told them that we werent celebrating Xmas, just observing the holiday, asked them if they took the day of work because of the holiday.
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sandy
Lestered, did they leave you alone after you told them you weren't celebrating Christmas?
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BCZAR2ME
Wow lesterd. Never thought of that angle. What's the rest of the story?
bczar