Lesson 1.4 is here:
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/126615/1.ashx
Now that we've worked on your mindset toward the world of dating, it's time to start doing some work.
One of the most difficult problems men have when they approach women is what to talk about. A lot of people say "hello" is the best way to open a woman to conversation, but I disagree. The word "hello" is merely a greeting, and it doesn't do anything to lead into more conversation.
Also, in the book "The Game", there are a bunch of pre-written openers that you can use to get a woman's attention. However, telling a lie to get a woman's attention only masks your true personality, and if you use an opener that everyone else does, there is the chance that she's heard it before.
The key to coming up with an opener is to be observant. Over the next week or so, what I'd like you men to do is when you're out in public, doing errands or even going to work, look around and see what kind of conversation starters (or openers) you can come up with just by observing what's around you. There's always the standard talk about weather, but look for things that REALLY stick out. If you see a fur coat store beside an animal shelter, that would make a great opener. Any car accident, or an ambulance driving by can be the subject of an opener. Even the most mediocre thing like a crooked street sign could make a great opener. Use that as your subject, and talk about it. "Gee, that city worker must have had one leg shorter than the other to hang a sign so crooked!" Be as creative as you like, and as funny as you want, just as long as it breaks the silence.
When commenting on your surroundings to a woman, skip the hello and start with a statement, or better yet, a question.
"Gee, that city worker must have had one leg shorter than the other to hang a sign so crooked!"
"Wow, someone must have dropped 12 boxes of plates to make that kind of noise! Did that scare the hell out of you too?" Be as creative as you like, and as funny as you want, just as long as it breaks the silence.
You can also use the woman's appearance as a subject for an opener. However, DO NOT use a general compliment to start your conversation. For example, "You look very pretty" will only creep her out. Instead, comment on something she's wearing. A good example of this is: "That's an interesting necklace you have on, where did you get that?"
Approach Anxiety
Many of you are going to have approach anxiety when you begin approaching women. This is normal especially if you're not used to interacting with strangers. At this stage, we're not even asking the woman for her phone number yet. So for practice, begin approaching strangers - MEN AND WOMEN, OLD AND YOUNG - using the converstation starters that you've thought up. Do this as much as you can within the next little while until you start to become comfortable conversing with people you don't know. You MUST overcome your fear of talking to strangers before you can overcome your fear of asking out a woman.
The fear you have of talking to strangers most likely comes from your upbringing. What's one thing we learn as children?... Don't talk to strangers! Well, now you're no longer a child, and talking to strangers is essential in your day to day life, so you might as well learn to become comfortable with it.
Again, I emphasize the NEED to go out and do the work. Go out into public, approach strangers, and start conversations with them. If you don't practice by doing the work, you're dating life isn't going to improve.