11/8/01 Awake Women's article online

by Esmeralda 8 Replies latest jw friends

  • Esmeralda
    Esmeralda

    Bill Bowen kindly e mailed me a scan of the Awake article from 11/08 about Battered women. You can't grasp how horrible this article is until you read it in its entirety. No comments are added, it is just the scan of the article.

    Here's the URL:

    : http://awake11801.homestead.com/Awake.html

    Thanks Bill
    *hug*
    essie

    p.s. I noticed on the table of contents page that there is also an article on disciplining children. I would like to know what is in it, if anyone has the text scanned please e mail it to me? Thanks!

  • safe4kids
    safe4kids

    Esmerelda and Bill,

    Thanks for the link and the information. Another typical response to a serious problem that can and should be dealt with by becoming a JW!!! Scuse me while I hurl! Two things stuck out big time: One was where they said no one should 'coax' a woman to leave her husband...and the other was where it said that a couple should review their problem together...JESUS CHRIST!!!! Like most batterers are going to calmly sit down and say after reading this magazine "oh yeah, honey...I see where I've been wrong"!!!! And believe me, if i had a friend or relative being abused by their partner, I'm not gonna coax them to leave, I'm gonna help em pack their bags!

    Yeah, they paid lip service to a battered woman getting help...but implicit in this article was how much better it is to 'fix' the guy with, you guessed it! becoming a jw. As usual, NO REAL PRACTICAL HELP OR ADVICE GIVEN!!

    Here are 16 warning signs of Domestic Violence from a local DV shelter:

    1)A push for a quick relationship
    2)Jealous and possessive
    3)Tries to control your life
    4)Unrealistic expectations
    5)Isolates you from friends and family
    6)Blames others for their problems and mistakes
    7)Makes everyone else responsible for their feelings
    8)Says their feelings are easily hurt
    9)Cruel to animals and children
    10)"Playful" use of force during sex
    11)Yells and calls you names
    12)Rigid sex roles
    13)Sudden mood swings
    14)History of battering
    15)Threats of violence
    16)Threatens to reveal personal or damaging information about you to your family or employer

    Remember...any ONE of the above can be a warning sign of a potential abuser. Most physical abuse starts first with emotional and psychological abuse and THEN escalates. My heart goes out to any woman (or man) who find themselves in such a relationship. Contrary to what the article would like you to believe, abusers RARELY stop being abusive without serious professional help.

    Sorry this is so long but it's a subject that is near to my heart. Thanks for letting me add my $1.00 worth.

    Dana

    "...I'd walk with my people if I could find them..."

    Third Eye Blind, Deep Inside of You

  • Tatiana
    Tatiana

    Thanks, Essie, for posting the article. Sorry I haven't really responded since I posted some of what I went through. I remembered a little more than I wanted to. Had to get away from it for a while.

    Some battered women may need to seek assistance from authorities.

    I know this sentence has been mentioned more than once, but it still makes me ill. ALL battered women need to call 911, have him arrested, and while he's sitting in a jail cell, maybe then he'll see the "error of his ways", and start attending meetings!!![8>]

    The article "Dreaming" was enough to make me want to bring up my lunch. Please tell me what is the big deal when men sweep and wash dishes? It's not a big deal when women do it. And right, this wife beater goes to a brother's house, sees him washing dishes. Goes to the KH and sees men sweeping the floor and VOILA!!!...he decides to stop beating his wife?????

    And it kills me when they try to use everything as an example of Biblical prophecy.

    The Bible long ago fortold that during the "last days" of this system of things, many would be abusive, with no natural affection, and fierce. (2 Timothy 3:1-3, The New English Bible)
    The prevalence of spouse abuse is simply another indication that we are living in the very time period designated by this prophecy.

    Abuse of women has been going on for thousands of years. I guess the fact that the WTS is only addressing it NOW, makes it fulfilling.

    The real clincher, though, is that I know from first-hand experience, like Dana said, that it's all lip service. What they write and how they act behind KH walls are totally different. All they are doing now is covering their collective asses!

    April

    "Love never dies." Voivodul Vlad Draculea (from Bram Stoker's Dracula-1992)

  • nelly136
    nelly136

    ok so I read the list, do at least half of those points also apply to the borg or is it just my tired mind playing tricks with me?
    nelly

  • Esmeralda
    Esmeralda

    ((((((((((April)))))))))))))

    Honey, don't worry about it. If you can't write more about it, then don't. You can only do what you can.

    I know that I had a restless, bad night too. Got up at six finally and just wrote a bunch of things out. Had to do it, but it was hell. Shook for hours afterward.

    Have just now stopped shaking. It's a beautiful day here today, I opened up all the windows to let the breeze blow in on what is probably one of the last pretty days of the season here. Letting the bad memories out, spending the afternoon with my sweetie and counting my blessings.

    You are right to get away from it. I haven't enjoyed my day trip back to that place, but I am doing my best to come back to the present now.

    *HUGE HUG* for you
    love
    essie

    p.s. nelly dear, I concur. Lots of stuff on that list sure does apply to the Borg...

  • Tatiana
    Tatiana

    Thanks, {{{{{Essie}}}}}}. Today is better. Just posted a song for you.

    Like you said...shake it off!!Smile again...

    Love....

    April

    "Love never dies." Voivodul Vlad Draculea (from Bram Stoker's Dracula-1992)

  • MacHislopp
    MacHislopp

    Hello Esmeralda,

    thanks for the links. It'll be very

    ussefull to comment on it.

    Safe4kids:

    "Yeah, they paid lip service to a battered woman getting help...but implicit in this article was how much better it is to 'fix' the guy with, you guessed it! becoming a jw. As usual, NO REAL PRACTICAL HELP OR ADVICE GIVEN!!"

    I do share your opinion, it's a good point.

    Greetings, J.C.MacHislopp

    " One who has an accurate knowledge
    of God's Word will have no problem
    in refuting false religious ideas".

  • Tina
    Tina

    ((((((((everyone)))))))))
    Thanks Es,Bill!
    Dana beautifully said!
    April each day gets a little bit better :> luv to all here,T

    I am so proud and encouraged by all the women here who have found their voices! What courage and strength all have shown.Those who take the risk of breaking the silence,are indeed,true heros! I watch as we find strength in each other. Everyday we get a little stronger,a little braver! What ever happens though,never be silenced again! With major admiration and thanks to all the women !!!! luv,T

    Carl Sagan on balancing openness to new ideas with skeptical scrutiny..."if you are open to the point of gullibility and have not an ounce of skeptical sense-you cannot distinguish useful ideas from worthless ones."

  • Esmeralda
    Esmeralda

    ((((((Tina))))))))) I too am amazed by the strength of the women around me in this community. Amazing. I salute them all.

    love ya big sis
    es

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