Ladies,
These are outrageous things to say and I am greatly offended. I am a Benefits and HR Manager. My job in this situation is to make sure that you are taken care of and that the company treats you fairly, not block treatment or wish you harm in any way. Good grief... Grow up!
Jean
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Gently Feral,
It sounds to me like they want to settle, however now is the time to be extra cautious. Neither the insurance adjuster, nor the HR person, has your best interests in mind. Their job is to get you off of WC any way they can and for the least amount of money. They don't care if you work again and they don't care about your future...no matter how nice and caring they appear to be. Part of the game is getting you to meet without representation.
I seem to recall that you started your WC thread about 3 weeks ago and I mentioned then that you needed an attorney. Please take my comments not as criticism, but rather as concern: You should have had this done by now. I cannot stress this enough. Finding a WC attorney, especially at the stage you are at, should not have taken more than a week.
I could be wrong, but I don't think e-mailing a bunch of attorneys hoping one picks your case up is the way to do it. You need to find out who the top law firm in your area is. Call them. Ask if they handle WC cases. If they do, tell them you are in an emergency and need representation immediately. If the receptionist says they cannot meet with you immediately (and by immediately I mean a couple of days) then ask to speak with the attorney and ask her/him what you should say to the HR person until they are able to meet with you. Generally they will give you a little advice so that you can hold things off for a bit. If the top law firm does not handle WC, ask them who they would recommend. Whatever you do get a good attorney immediately...don't let another week go by.
If you are unable to get an attorney within a week I don't think you will have any choice but to tell the HR person that you are seeking representation. One of the games of WC, at least it was in my area, is that you have to clearly be "cooperative". When you delay meeting with the claims people without a good reason they have the nasty habit of branding you "uncooperative", which gives them ammo to cut off your benefits. You need to be as sweet, kind, but assertive as you can be. The HR lady is not going to be thrilled that you are looking for representation, but that is because she will know she is in for a difficult time.
Right now the HR lady and the claims adjuster are licking their chops because they have a rabbit that is unprotected and vulnerable. Don't be a rabbit, be a fox. Get an attorney. By the way, did I mention that you need an attorney immediately?
exjdub (who is very concerned for you right now)
Ps: I forgot to mention: Please get an attorney immediately.