Some months ago my exwife was facing death due to a massive blood loss. We have a son 23years old I kept him company during the night while his mother went through several proceedures to find the leak. Early in the morning with her mouth full of tubes & despite objections from an elders wife who said "No she does not want to see me she is frightened that I am in the hospital" Lorna insisted on seeing me. An unexpected surprise on my part as she completely shuns me. Tom my son who is fairly astute knew what his mother wanted and arranged the visit having the nurse chase out the witnesses The next afternoon she had recovered. Her story now was that the nurse had told her she was going to die and that she should say goodbye to her family.. So back to the shunning.
Recently my son passed his thesis for his masters in Physchology and wanted to celebrate. I suggested that his mother should join us. We both new the answer to that one She excused herself saying she was not feeling well. I rang her saying we could change it to later after all your his Mum and it would be nice if his MUM and Dad shared this with him. She agreed that it would be nice but not possible. This is the mindset that broke up our marriage Does she go with her feelings her personal experience her opinion or that of the WT that says I must be evil because I no longer agree with them. And she looks for reasons to support the WT position no matter how ridiculous. I know there is little I can do but I hate having my hands tied It's like in those movies where your a ghost trying to make contact with the living I know I'm venting guys but who else understands my frustration