They had been asking to visit and usally i tried to visit with them enough before and after so that they wouldnt' feel a need to visit while the tree is up. They went to visit my brother and it went okay. Even though my brother wasn't informed that my mom would be showing up too. Then it was my turn... my dad kept saying that they are gonna come visit then finally called and said "we thought we could come over TOMORROW'. Luckily me and my brother had already discussed this scenario and what to say 'IF'. So i told dad ' i don't mind ya'll coming over at all as long as you don't mind the decorations that we have up". There was a long pause and some stuttering around and he said that he doesn't mind. They came over and lights were on the house.. a moving doe, blow up snowman and candycanes were in front a jingle bell wreath on the door and nice xmas tree all decod right by the front door. The big elephant in the room was never mentioned. The "you are in good standing and reinstated but have all this stuff up" didn't get mentioned even in any passive aggresive comments that we have come to expect from our mother. It was one of the most odd visits i have ever had.
And sorta of the sub but about my dad... he really is coming around but with mom around him all the time trying to be a 'good jw' it really wont sink in till she is gone. Mom is feeling more ...herself.. lately and is getting more active and talkative. She got hooked up to the meeting yesterday and afterwards started talking with dad about how she is worried about me and what i am doing.. or not doing. Dad is disillusioned enough to know that the jw aren't really his friends etc. I snuck in a quote from Hitler that i saw on this board about repeating info to get people to do what you want and how that is brainwashing. Dad started getting nervous about this discussion. I just calmly scaled back a little saying... dad...it is brainwashing if the elders can plant a seed of guilt so big in you that you leave my wedding and choose not to dance with me at my reception when I didn't do anything wrong. He agreed but wanted to not talk about all this again as it upsets him. ((to hear the truth when you are just starting to see it is pretty painful if i remember correctly))
Anyway.. that is my jabber session for this morning. Hope everyone is having a great day.
Rayvin