How much infidelity was there in your congregation?

RULES & REGULATIONS

My congregation had 85 members in the 90's.Today, there are only 35 members.I counted 6 divorces that were due to infidelity.All were married in their teens and each married the first person they ever dated.All the men found new girlfriends or remarried and left all the kids and financial burdens on their wives.Most of the ex-wives live with their parents and have a hard time remarrying due to lack of men in the Kingdom Hall.

Now,the new thing is for these divorced women finding brothers who were divorced due to infidelity in their marriage and date brothers from out of state.Don't you think that by finding a partner who was in the same situation makes it more difficult? And what guarantee is there that this will work since their first husbands were Witnesses?

Rooster

There was so much I lost count..

zack

The Witnesses have as much infidelity in their ranks as anyone else. Many in the congo I have been in in 36 years of memory were or are on 2nd and third marriages.

Perhaps if people could divorce for other reasons than adultery the "infedelity" would not be as high. Sometimes the marriage is over and there has been no extra-marital

sex, but the witnesses know they can have no "scriptural" divorce without this. I have an acquaintance who told the elders he cheated on his wife so they could both

be free to marry and he hadn't really done so. He only said he did to get out. Who is more screwed up? My acquiantance or the religion that makes someone do something

like that?

To be fair, they marry sooooo young and their relationships are under so much pressure from the relgion that it isn't surprising many of their marriages don't survive. It's a shame.

looking_glass

it seemed to be the same couple of people who would just rotate thru other people's wives/husbands. Most of the couple "forgave" and moved on and are still married to this day. but i think some of it is because they needed to save face because these same couples are more like roommates then husband and wife.

New Worldly Translation

Quite a lot. I always found it funny that when a JW divorced or was reproved for infidelity that it somehow didn't count towards the stats for JW's as 'we always suspected they weren't a proper witness'.

Another thing I noticed was that couples who married before becoming JW's had stronger marriages than those who married 'in the truth'.

Alligator Wisdom

There were two couples involved in my former congregation.

The wives stayed in the organization while their ex-husbands were DF'D and moved away with their mistresses.

Alligator Wisdom (aka Brother NOT Exerting Vigorously by WTS standards)

jaguarbass

I've been shocked to see that the witnesses are as immoral as any other group that I have observed. Many of my Jw peers, I have to say most of my jw peers have been divorced. My worldly friends seem to stay married longer than my jw friends. Not that it really matters. I've come to realize marriage is a financial contract. Also there is quid quo pro. "something for something" No one rides for free, grass or ass.