Snow day update

Well I'm caught in the middle of a blizzard right now so I'm stuck at work. I left a few hours ago, but it took me a full hour to go 3 kilometers so I went back to work.

I've had a rather interesting week and now I have alot of spare time so I might as well make a post about it.

This weekend past was my son's birthday which was the first one that I planned to celebrate. My wife had agreed to let our kids do the holidays but didn't want any part of it herself. I just made the plans myself and talked to the kids about it.

When the day came I did some last minute shopping and was all set to go. We were going to go to McDonald's for a lunch then back to our neighbor's place for a small party. While getting ready, my wife was just sitting there watching TV, I popped into the room and said "just so you know, you're invited too if you want to come"

She paused then said "you're not going to be singing Happy Birthday are you?" I said no, and meant it, that song still kinda annoys me so she agreed to come along. That was quite a relief since our neighbor's husband decided to go hunting, that would have just left myself with my wife's best friend and the kids. Even though we'd have a ton of kids with us, the last thing I wanted was for my wife to get jealous about her best friend having lunch with her husband regardless of the circumstances. (My wife has a small issue with jealousy)

So we got there and all the kids had alot of fun. This was one with a large play area in it so I took all the kids in to play. My wife and her best friend stayed out to chat. When we got back to our place the kids were really excited for the party. I just headed over to her place hoping my wife would come along anyways. Our neighbor took more initiative and shouted out "Are you coming too?" She told me later that during lunch my wife said that she felt very conflicted by the whole situation. Our neighbor told my wife that she had to "do what felt right in her heart".

Apparently what felt right was to come along. I was a bit nervous since this was a full party with candles and cake and presents.

I had done up small gift bags for all the kids and we handed out those first to distract the rest of the kids. They were all quite delighted and everyone had a good time. Our son was extremely impressed with the gifts I got him and really happy. I offered some cake to my wife and she said "sure, I'm here. Might as well have some birthday cake" her tone wasn't happy but wasn't annoyed either. I think she just had to make some comment to reconcile her feelings of guilt.

Eventually we rounded all the kids up for naps and headed home. When we got into our house my wife said: "You did a very good job on that party. You have my blessing to organize any other kid's party"

That's quite a complement as she is fantastic with planning and throwing social events. That was it and we didn't discuss it any more. No change in her attitude, but I think if I just keep doing holiday activities one year she'll just join in willingly. Hoping at least.

Snow day update

Paralipomenon

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