by hambeak 5 Replies latest jw friends
Told Jakes mom I am not going over there for a while and I need a little time off for me.
A lot of feces hit the oscilator so what I need is to take care of me for awhile.
No cooking or cleaning for them for a while.
A lot of anger at me now so how do I tell them to f$$cj off?
Good evening hambeak,
Have you talked to Jake about this? All of this should not fall on your shoulders only. That is not right.
Juni
Hi Hammy....
Sometimes relationships are toxic for you to be in....PERIOD. You don't have to nurture them. This is how I feel about my step-dad. I will occasionaly talk to him.....but I don't put myself out there anymore. You don't have to make excuses or apologize. It is the way it is, and it is your right to avoid them...and you don't even have to tell them that that is what you are doing....just do it.
Good luck, stay strong!
Why is it YOUR job to cook and clean for your boyfriends family? You have a full time job and he is a dilletante. He can fix a lasagne and heat up a loaf of french bread. I don't understand the relationship (and since I really DON'T understand it, I am not judging, just asking the question) but most partnerships are partnerships which means both people sacrifice for the other. It is really hard to keep shelling out life energy without being given some back in return. I hope he and his family realize that you are normal and need some support too. I wish you well,
shelly
I think that Jake needs to take responsibility for HIS OWN parents. If you were not working full time and didn't mind cooking and cleaning for them that would be a different story, but for them to expect and demand that from you over and above putting in a full work week-it's unfathomable.
You need to put your foot down right now and put a stop to this...and stop letting them all make you feel guilty over it-they seem very good at that!!!
Good luck-be tough!!!
LIG
Next time the fecal matter hits the oscillating device when you set a boundary for your in-laws, ask MIL when was the last time she cleaned up her place and cooked for YOU.
Then tell her to fork off.
Let her stew. It's not going to kill her to not enjoy your cooking and clean house for a few weeks. She sounds like someone I'd like to spend a few weeks away from too, and I don't even know her.
