A post about shunning and how we didnt have to just accept it but could show that OUR door of unconditional love was open even if theirs was shut prompted me to e-mail an immediate family member who i had not seen since a grandparents funeral (i am not da/df but faded too quick and married to non dub).
Just came back from coffee with them, and when they left they thanked me for suggesting that we meet up! This person is a pioneer and maybe didnt feel comfortable suggesting it themselves?! Yay. Am going to arrange another coffee in a month or two and try to keep it kinda regular unless they say stop.
I'm now thinking I may extend my invitation to non immediate family, theyre all in the same cong and if the pioneer thinks its ok to see me, i think other family will fall in line (i found out that non immediate familiy would hav come to my wedding but when they found that this family member and partner wouldnt be turning up, they all said no too).
thankyou to whoever put the thought in my brain :D