I have been widowed twice, once at 28 and again at 41...
Since that time I had vivid dreams of both Husbands.
My first Husband, started out with me looking for him, everywhere. I remember being in a room full of phone books, stacked from floor to ceiling. I sat among them, going through them one by one. Other times people would tell me they saw him somewhere, and by the time I would arrive he would have just left.
Over time I would arrive just in time to see him getting in a vehicle and leaving. I was never able to catch up. This progressed to where He would respond to my calling for him.. by turning and smiling at me.
This went on for a period of years, off and on. It came to the point that I would receive phone calls telling me he would be such and such and for me to be there. I never knew who it was on the phone, I would go and wait for him. He would arrive, but never speak to me, just smile. There was always other people around.
Again over time, we were finally in the same place, sitting at a table outside, like an outside cafe. We finally talk, he tells me he has met someone and that he is happy. I also tell him the same. We part friends. And the dreams end for good. This took place over a period of 15 years. It's been 9 years since the last one.
My Second Husband (a JW) is always in a Suit. Usually we are in line at a cafeteria (school lunch style) he never speaks to me, just nods and smiles. Sometimes I am standing right behind him..but, I am afraid to touch him.. It goes thru my mind that maybe he is not real.
I have this dream off and on for a couple years...more or less the same. Finally we met in a public place and he tells me that he has met someone and that he is Happy. I wish him well and we part friends. This took place over a period of around 6 years. It has been 4 years since the last one.
I never tried to touch either of them... it seemed off limits. These were VERY vivid dreams.
I have never dreamed of thier actual deaths, one a violent death, the other sudden physical illness.
I don't know what any of this means, just my personal experiance. I feel that it's just the minds way of coping with emotions and helping the innerself come to terms with the traumas of both situations.
I do have to say, it seemed really odd, the way they progressed...always moving forward, until resolved. I also think it odd that they both told me the same thing !! I have not been able to find anyone with the same experiences in my personal life or on the internet.
Anyone out there, have any similar dreams of lost loved ones...that progressed over time.
Cas