JW's sat beside me at lunch, didn't say a word!

by WingCommander 7 Replies latest jw friends

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  WingCommander

  Unbelievable. *** NOTE: I grew up JW, never baptized or DF'd though.I haven't set foot in a KH in 2 years, ever since I gave some so-called friends my new telephone # and address, and asked them to stop by and chat about our beliefs with my new wife. I had taken her to the Memorial and 2 meetings, and of course she got love-bombed, but no one EVER called, or came around to speak to her, OR ME! This was unfathonable to me. Knock on non-believers doors, but don't bother to give a damn about someone who brings his new non-believing wife to the meeting. That was 2 years ago, I have hearding NOTHING from anyone. I could be dead and they wouldn't care!

  So yesterday I went to a Sunday service at my in-law's church, a first for me. It was a Methodist church, but lively and so much more positive than the standard zombified stare at the local Kingdom Hall. There was REAL social interaction, REAL singing, and a genuine heartfelt desire to praise God and His Son, Jesus. Afterward, we went home and changed into casual clothing, and then headed to a nearby resteraunt for lunch. Nothing fancy. So we get a booth and order. Then, I saw an overly dressed family stroll in a take a large table, right next to my families booth. I immediately recognized the mother, daughter, and then the Elder father as ones I had known (at the KH, not outside mind you) for about 8 years. They didn't say word one to me. Not a nod, hello, anything. I didn't say anything to my wife, hoping that she didn't recognize them from her two visits to our local Kingdom Hall two years ago. I felt to ackward, disgusted, and inwardly embarrased that these so-called brothers and sisters didn't even acknowledge my existance. At 6'-2" tall, and 250 lbs, I'm not exactly a small guy, someone you'd miss if you were sitting at the next table.

  I looked over a few times, expecting some cordial greeting, but they were so self-absorbed and seemed oblivious to my existance. I could at that time just get a taste of what it must feel like to be DF'd, even though I'm not. Their non-existant display of "brotherly love" was repulsive and disgusting to me. Did I really act like one of these ass-clowns for the first 18 years of my life? Was a neo-maxi-zoom-self-righteous-magazine-salesman like this as well? If so, there is no wonder why I was so socially retarded and defective for so long.

  How in the world do they think other people look up to them? What pious assholes. We ate our lunch and I never mentioned who they were to my non-believing wife, as I was just too embarrassed and ashamed of them and their attitude. We left and I hope I never see them again.

  So, how was everyone elses Easter?

  Thanks for listening.....

  - Wing Commander
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  horrible life

  I get this alot from a couple in my town. I am not originally from here, but did go to 2 memorials here, years ago. The woman was young, and I was new in town, and she worked at Walmart, and I would say hi to her. Like maybe we could be friends. She usually had her nose up in the air. But being a JW in beliefs, just not going, I still thought they were fine. I just needed to go to meetings, for them to like me.

  I wanted a car like her husband had, so when I saw him at the carwash, I waited til he was through. I went up and asked him about it. He said it was new, and he didn't know much about it, and got in and drove off.

  That was 15 years ago, and it seems that we run into each other everywhere. They don't even look at me. At times they say hi to my husband.

  2 wks ago, we sat right next to them at a resturant, and I noticed that they didn't leave a tip. I asked my waitress if they had. She said NO, and that they never did. They had their son with them, about age 13. He had his head hung down, throughout the whole meal. My daughter said he is smart, but all he does at school is read on the corner of the playground, and he has no friends, and wears highwater pants.

  These are JW's, who wear nice clothes, and drive nice cars, etc. What a witness, not leaving tips, and allowing your child to look like a GEEK.

  My brother let my nephew look like a GEEK also. And I know he had 6 figures in the bank.

  Why do witnesses do this?????
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  LittleToe

  They aren't really all that they claim to be cut out to be, huh? At least they don't cross the road to avoid you. The ones around me nearly genuflect when they see me
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  LongHairGal

  Don't ever concern yourself about JWs who ignore you in public. The sick part about all this is that if these self-righteous individuals were in trouble they would EXPECT you to help them! If one of them were gagging for air or fell down they would expect you to either call 911 or give mouth to mouth. How's that for hypocrisy. That's why nobody should ever be discourteous to anybody anywhere nowadays, you never know what can happen.

  When I am in public and see JWs, I won't go out of my way to say hello even if they are right in front of me. I will have a pleasant expression on my face just in case they decide to greet me. But, if they do not it is NO loss to me.

  It is also quite possible they didn't recognize you or were deep in thought about some problem. Sometimes things aren't what we think they are and sometimes it isn't about us at all.

  LHG
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  avidbiblereader

  Wing Commander and Horrible life, thanks for sharing

  I am DF'd and get that treatment all the time, what I take from it is this: We all have the resposibiltiy to act Christlike or at least human to our fellow human beings. There is too much emphasis put on JW and how they are suppose to act toward us like they are the measuring bar. Prove them wrong and act as Christ like as we can, remember as Christ said, by their fruits we will be recognized.

  Just because they act that way is no excuse for me to act the same. I try to make eye contact and nod my head as respectful as possible. they can say what they want about me but they are not the measuring bar or judge.

  As Christ said about those in his day Matt 5:43-48 43 “You have heard the law that says, ‘Love your neighbor’ and hate your enemy. 44 But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you! 45 In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and he sends rain on the just and the unjust alike. 46 If you love only those who love you, what reward is there for that? Even corrupt tax collectors do that much. 47 If you are kind only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? Even pagans do that. 48 But you are to be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect.

  One of my favorite sayings is this, " We can't change others but if not careful, others can change us"

  abr
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  juni

  I can understand how you feel WingCommander. There is no excuse for such rude behavior.

  It's sad to think that they feel they are followers of Christ who said to "love your enemies".

  Like you said, best to leave it alone and enjoy your life w/your wife and w/those who do treat you as a fellow human being.

  Dropped off easter baskets to the grandkids. That's all. Thanks for asking.

  Juni
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  Dismembered

  I've found that most dubs are social retards, and are naturally snobs. All religion aside. I wouldn't get my underpants in a bunch because they didn't go out of their way to be courteous. For many, being nice, is just not in them. The only time many of them will fake that they care, is at the kingdom hall for Jehovah brownie points. Flip them off next time.

  Dismembered
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  sspo

  You should know that unless you are active, you are a nobody to them,

  they do not go after that one lost sheep but rather stay with the ninety-nine.

  Many are aux-pioneering this month, their main concern is not the people but just literally wasting time

  so that they can get their 50 hours in one way or another.