My wife is staying with 'friends' out of town recovering from surgery on her foot. I called to see how she was healing up and mentioned that I hope she gets back on her feet before I leave for the states to visit family (all non-witness) in April. I begged her to postpone this surgery until I got back, but she did not forsee any problems.We will see.
Anyway, it dawned on her that I won't be here to attend the memorial and she said: you are probably happy about that. I paused for a second and then responded that yes, I was happy about it. I then explained to her that I was so disgusted with last years jw-org infomercial excuse for a memorial that I wanted to walk out but didn't because I did not want to embarass her. She started to blather on about how close we are to 'the end' and we need stick together, but I cut her off and changed the subject to something else. Not a conversation to have over the phone.
I could hear the sadness in her voice, but what could I do? I refuse to be a door-mat for these people any longer. I will try to be polite while firm. If she wants to talk about it, we can. I think she still has some hope that eventually I will come to my senses but I need to make it clear to her that I already have and that is why I'm not going back.