When you left or was DFed, DAed how many people did it affect or effect?
I have a question
by rekless 7 Replies latest jw friends
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Vernon Williams
In one subtle way or another: everyone.
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DJK
When I left, I never looked back so I don't know what effect it had.
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unique1
6 = My parents, my best friend and her family.
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Crumpet
Well really it only affected me. Everyone else was the cause of me being shunned. I would still speak to them. They wouldnt speak to me so in effect they were in control of the effect and how people were affected.
So I never saw my grandparents alive again after the age of 16 when I was first Dfed. I am shunned by my parents, my two sisters, my two uncles, one aunt (the other aunt died of cancer so I never got to see her either), 6 cousins and all my so called friends growing up. They were not affected - though they may have affected that they were. After all its their decision to shun someone, not mine to be shunned.
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Blueblades
My Congregation was very upset that I stepped down from serving as an Elder and started to do the fade. The local brothers sisters would come to me and tell me how much they really missed me . I was one of two local Elders that the congregation came to with their problems and wanted to work in the field service with.
Blueblades
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forsharry
I really don't know if it affected anyone. I do know that affected me though. I wouldn't change what I did for anything, but breaking out of the mindset I had been raised to believe was horrific. Doubts fed all of my actions for a very long time, and I couldn't help but wonder if I was truly being bullheaded about it all...or whether I did the right thing in leaving.
Shar
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ex-nj-jw
When I left, I never looked back so I don't know what effect it had
Ditto! Although I assume my parents had a hard time with it. But then again I was never really involved, just kinda went through the motions until I was old enough to leave. I think they expected it. Other than that, no friends really to speak of that were JW's and other than immediate family no JW relatives. My parents pretty much kept us away from extended family and they lived far away so we didn't grow up with them, that part is sad. Everybody needs family!
nj