Witness wife still waits, despite Memorial sevice

BoozeRunner

This such a sad reality for many affected by WTC attacks.

DESPITE MEMORIAL, DON'T CALL STAR ORTIZ A WIDOW By ANDREA PEYSER

http://www.nypost.com/seven/10152001/commentary/31802.htm

Boozy

LDH

* http://www.nypost.com/seven/10152001/commentary/31802.htm

Clickable now. Good story. I question why Witness parents have the right to organize a funeral when this was a married man. Why didn't they defer to his wife's wishes?

PS-she's not the only one still in a state of denial.

Lisa

Tina

Hi Boozy,
A sad story indeed. Thanks for the 'window' into the mindset here.

Hi Lisa,
Yep supreme denial ! I understand where you're coming from about the parents here. Due to personal experience, as destroyed and broken a spouse feels,it is their responsibility.
I've seen spouses,while still in shock and denial(this can't be happening to me kinda thinking) still go ahead and make the necessary arrangements. This actually helps reality to set in,and the grieving process to happen.

In this case,the wife's denial is so severe,I can understand the parents having to step in to help her face reality by arranging the service. By not beginning the grief/mourning process,she can continue with this futile false hope. The service forces her to start facing the sad reality. She obviously wasn't mentally/emotionally able to think coherently about her husband. And her behavior,until addressed,won't be a healthy one for her child. The JW's dont have a market on healthy,normal grieving and mourning to begin with.
Just my dos cenatvos,luv to both! Tina

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LDH

OK Tina now I understand a little better. Still, it's bizarre, no?

Lisa

Tina

(lisa))))))
no doubt,I'm in agreement with ya here. A rather bizarre situation!
luv,T

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BoozeRunner

Hi ((((Tina))))), (((((((Lisa))))),

Yes, kinda bizarre indeed. The denial is very severe. The parents apparently want to start the healing process, and move on as best as possible.
I wish them all well.

Boozy

Tina

((((((boozy)))))))))))
You said it all concisely.Beautiful summation. I like how you break it down so well!!
Thanks again for bringing this experience to our attention. Really can get some 'life lessons' from observing others and their experiences. Well done! luv ya,T

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BoozeRunner

thanx Tina :-)

Boozy

Witness wife still waits, despite Memorial sevice

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