On page 103 of the revised Flock Book (1991 edition) where it discusses disfellowshipped ones (and social gatherings), it states that "Loyal worshippers of Jehovah will want to adhere to the inspired counsel at 1 Corinthians 5:11." The "counsel" given there involves "not even eating" with a disfellowshipped one.
If the rank and file aren't allowed to have a literal meal with the DF'd person, how come they're allowed to have a "spiritual meal" with that same person? Why should the DF'd person be subjected to the torture of going to the Kingdumb Hell just to be ignored by everyone?