EXCELLENT!!! series of articles on recognizing early the signs of a controller-manipulator (narcisstic especially):
http://www.obgyn.net/displayarticle.asp?page=/yw/articles/Romeopart1
http://www.obgyn.net/displayarticle.asp?page=/yw/articles/Romeopart2
http://www.obgyn.net/displayarticle.asp?page=/yw/articles/Romeopart3
http://www.obgyn.net/displayarticle.asp?page=/yw/articles/Romeopart4
http://www.obgyn.net/displayarticle.asp?page=/yw/articles/Romeopart5
http://www.obgyn.net/displayarticle.asp?page=/yw/articles/Romeopart6