by lavendar 4 Replies latest jw friends
Do you think there are more Witnesses getting out of the WTS than ever before? I'd like to think so, cause that gives me hope for our son. (He's married to a JW and is slowly being brainwashed). I hope I'm not just wishful thinking........ What do you all think?
Lavendar
Here are some takes on this idea, and my own personal thoughts, on a thread I started the other day:
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/138423/1.ashx
Yes. I think more people are leaving and fewer are entering than ever. I also think this will be a long, slow slide to oblivion.
S4
Do you think there are more Witnesses getting out of the WTS than ever before? I'd like to think so, cause that gives me hope for our son. (He's married to a JW and is slowly being brainwashed). I hope I'm not just wishful thinking........ What do you all think?
Lavendar
It sounds like your son is going the wrong way with outgoing tide. Not the incoming tide. If hes being brainwashed that has to run its course. Behavior originates from within. So once he is brainwashed, he would have to see a reason to change his behavior. He appears to be an adult turning his free will and mind over to a cheap bulk magazine publishing company.
I'm thinking intervention now. You need to get your son alone and spend some quality time with him and speak in terms that have only 1 meaning. In other words don't beat around the bush. Maybe you could make an hour presentation for him of some of the best data you have encountered on this jwd as to why he should cut and run. If you cant do that, then maybe your worrying for no reason. Once the witnoid cancer gets in his brain, theres as good of a chance as not that you have lost him for this life time.
Good luck. Life is difficult enough without having to deal with the wactower society.
The internet and people's easy acess to it has been the worst possible thing for the WTB&TS, whose "ark of salvation" has taken a torpedo hit at the waterline as a result.
The WTB&TS is going into panic mode. One indication of this is the recent decision to make some publications (the "study" Watchtower) secret. They want to limit their critics, but they can't.
Lavender,
There is a slow decline in people entering and a big exit through the back door. That may not matter to your son, though. The Witnesses will just use it as a sign that the end is near. They manage to do this no matter what happens.
Best thing you can do is continue to show him unconditional love and place a well thought out comment from time to time to try and reach his heart. Is he pretty much won over by their beliefs now? If so, they have taught him that Satan will try to stop him by using his family to weaken his faith. They get you coming and going. That's what makes them a cult.
Stay as close as you can to your son and he will know you are always there for him. I don't remember if you have been pointed toward the book, Combatting Cult Mind Control by Steve Hassan. He is an exit counselor and went through the cult experience personally so he can see it from both sides.
Unfortunately, there may be nothing you can do at present. Don't give up hope though. Many of us woke up after 30 years or more. Each person has to be ready to see the things that they are blinding themselves to at present. It may take a tremendous amount of patience on your part. He is lucky to have such a loving mother.
