Girls in "the truth"

B_Deserter

I was talking to a friend last night who is still dealing with a breakup that happened a few months ago. He ended up dating a younger sister (22) for a few months. She's bi-polar, and whenever things would get serious she would break it off. Then, she'd beg him to take her back. After they broke up the last time, she started spreading things around about him in the congregation. He tried talking to the elders about it, but they wouldn't do anything. He brought out that if he would have led a girl on like that, they would have hauled him into the back room and taken away privileges, to which they agreed that that would have happened.

He's working on moving away from the area. But all the females in the kingdom hall up where he lives (northern michigan) have this extremely child-like attitude towards life. They constantly lead guys on, thriving from the attention while continuing to be these "ever so holy virgin maidens." It's almost maddening how self-righteous and haughty JW Women can be. To my friend, it just means he needs to move to another hall. To me, it's just further proof that being a witness is all about putting on a good show and attaining the highest status you can possibly get. I can't understand HOW they expect guys to marry only witnesses when none of the witness females want to get married! That is, not to you, because you're not a fancy-ass elder who is rich, a pioneer, handsome, and never wants sex.

So anyway, that's my rant for the evening.

Hermano

The best thing your friend can do for himself is leave the Org. and find himself a nice worldy girl who will actually enjoy a normal relationship and even, oh my god, sex.

ex-nj-jw

Most JW's are very naive even at age 22, that's what happens when your are sheltered and taught that they are better than everyone else. The men are not any better, you are just seeing it from a male perspective.

nj

looking_glass

Sorry dude, but the coin flips in both directions. The guys had all the power (and still do from what I see). Based on the fact that the chicks out number the dudes, that fact alone gives a guy the power to do what he wants.

A couple of examples - a good ol' pioneer sister's son was a double-lifer. He was openly dating a sweet JW girl all the while quietly sleeping w/ another JW kid. When girl 2 realized that all his sweet words were simply empty words she did go to the elders. But this young man's mother had a strong hold on the elders in the hall and she convinced them that her sweet son must have been lured into a sexual affair w/ this slut of a JW girl. The boy went to the elders and cried and said how sorry he was (and I know this because he came out and told us, "if you ever want to get out of something all you have to do is cry") and that was it. The JW girl said she was not sorry because she loved him and guess what ... yup she was DF'd. This young man continued to be what we referred to as a "serial dater" because you know the JW view of dating ... "dating w/ a view to marriage". He went thru a chick a month. He finally settled down w/ the dumbest JW on the face of the planet. But what is funny is that his family (all strong JWs) seemed to have recreated history and forgotten about his wild young days.

Another kid I grew up w/ was pioneering while going to HS. You know how the JWs eat that crap up. Well he too was leading a "double life". Eventually his conscious (I know that is not the JW spelling of it, but I cannot remember what it is) got the better of him and he fessed up. Because they did not want to lose a male pioneer and because he "really" seemed sorry he got out of it, no worries. He left a few tainted JW girls in his wake. I know of 2 girls that are now in their 40's and not married that still carry around the scarlet F on their chest, but he married a good pioneer girl and they have gone on to have clones of themselves. Stepford JW children if you like.

sweetface2233

It is quite possible that those girls are looking for attention from all kinds of guys because they aren't/weren't getting it at home. Either their father is/was too involved w/ the cong and is neglecting his family or he isn't in the picture at all.