A question of willpower, friendship, and kindness

tsunami_rid3r

Whatever it is that makes us go on and want to do the many things we do daily has gone out of me. I no longer have the power to endure through running and exercising my body. I no longer wish to do anything fun. The only thing I want to do is finish my schooling.

Do we really need friends in our lives? I find them to get boring after awhile, and I just end up going through them to another set. I guess I'm naturally a loner, and I don't think this is a normal habit in society. And maybe the only reason I'm unable to offend anyone and always obligated to talk nicely to them is because I want something from them, whether its friendship or another trade off such as promotions, recommendations, of which those are important.

Can I just be blunt and rude with everyone but the important ones that do matter such as my professors and bosses?

REBORNAGAIN

You sound like me at times. Maybe it's a side-effect from being a JW, who limited our spare times in which we could have been pursuing friendships, and other entertainment. I'm a loner as well and at least I am capable of coping with it.

LINDA

anewme

You dont have to be nicey nicey and waste time with people you dont want to. You can learn to effectively communicate your need to be efficient with your time and energies.

1. Screen your calls. Allow an phone answering machine to do that for you.

2. When friends try and make arrangements with you that sound like a waste of time, beg off and say you are just swamped with school work.

3. When Joe Blow on the street wants to chit chat, say "Gotta go man"

4. Effective communication expressed consistently will produce the desired results in your life very shortly.

You are currently focused on your goal of education and some diploma. People respect that and understand.

You have the rest of your life to loaf and play.....but with a career under your belt and money in your pocket!

Hortensia

it doesn't hurt to smile at people and say "please" and "thank you" and "excuse me." You don't have to be rude and surly just because you are a loner. The world will be a lot worse than it is now if everyone decides to be nice only to important people and screw the rest. I think you are overworked and are blaming other people for your lack of boundaries. By all means finish your education, but don't offend all the "unimportant" people along the way. And follow the excellent suggestions above for cutting down time wasting interactions until you finish your course.

MadTiger

You are depressed, and may not even realize it.

You are displaying several symptoms.

It's OK to like to be alone. It's not OK to only interact with society for selfish reasons.