Even back when I was fully in, I felt at times that being a JW made being a good parent harder.
Sometimes a good parent needs to let a child experience a negative in some small way to learn how life works.
Lets say for purposes of illustration, that maybe your teen sneaks out to a party where there is drinking and smoking going on.
Rather than sit down and have a conversation where you can ask them what they thought about things and help them process it all in a way that reflects your values as a parent - you are supposed to call the elders!
And hurry! Before one of the other kids or parents does and your kids get in trouble from tattle telling!
Seriously?
I raised all my kids in the truth with minor scrapes but I always hated that part of parenting as a JW. The feeling that I could never just deal with minor teen events without negotiating potential white water with other parents or the elders.
It was always hanging over my head through those teen years like some witness version of the sword of Damocles.