Growing up Brady. . . . .I mean JW

by peacepipe 2 Replies latest jw friends

  • peacepipe
    peacepipe

    10 reasons I wanted to be a Brady
    1) Happy Family
    2) Happy Endings
    3) Enough Money
    4) Good values
    5) Mom & Dad lived together happily under one roof
    6) Always someone to play with
    7) Always had a home cooked meal
    8) Alice gave good advice
    9) Nobody in the home screamed at one another
    10)Things were the way the should be.

    10 reasons I thought I wanted to be a JW
    1) Unity
    2) Happy Families
    3) Higher Purpose
    4) Greater importance placed on family values instead of "worldly" values
    5) Support system/Feeling of brotherly love
    6) Magazines/literature portrays things to be the way they should be
    7) "Friends" gave good advice
    8) Feeling of Uniqueness & "I'm Special"
    9) (in a low, stern voice) HIGH MORAL STANDARDS
    10)I wanted to know what it was like to know God again(last time I "knew God" was about 7 years old.

    There is no point to this post other than I wanted to bring out that knowing the majority of posters here "GREW UP JW" with all the restrictions and rules and everything I can see that it would lead a non-conformist/free thinker/free spirit type person to want to escape and experience everything and live and love etc. I just wanted to say though as harsh as many of your childhoods were there is at least one person here. . . me. . .who had nothing short of a dysfunctional upringing that instead of wanting to be a freebird I just wanted that box; a safe, normal haven of a white picket fence, "Happy Days/Brady Bunch", housewife kind of life because I had enough craziness growing up. To many, that sounds pathetic, but my point (if you could say there is any such thing here) is there may be people out there who were sucked in for the same type of reasons as myself and if they are lurking I want to reach them and hear their stories too.

  • outnfree
    outnfree

    I have an inactive JW friend who sounds just like the person[s] you are reaching out to.

    Unfortunately, she doesn't post here.

    But I think I understand in some small way. She's voiced the opinion that it was so wonderful to be told what to do, and to be so CERTAIN that if you just did what was expected that you would get the paradise reward.

    outnfree

    Par dessus toutes choses, soyez bons. La bonte est ce qui ressemble le plus a Dieu et ce qui desarme le plus les hommes -- Lacordaire

  • tyydyy
    tyydyy

    I started with that perfect home, safe environment, happy family. But when I left I felt like a bunny rabbit crossing the road. Scary. There is sometimes, in a lot of us, the desire to go back just for that comfort.

    Hang in there

    Tim B

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