To Trevor and Danny

by Guest with Questions 5 Replies latest jw friends

  • Guest with Questions
    Guest with Questions

    The two incidents that the two of you created left an indelible mark. I’m not sure if either one of you will even read this post.

    Trevor:

    When I first heard about your hoax I wanted to believe that there was a mix up. I haven’t been here that long but when you mentioned that your wife was dying of cancer, I along with a lot of people, felt compassion for you. I lost a brother in law to cancer so I knew a little about how you would feel.

    You had been here more than two years. You seemed genuine. I went over some of your posts and Linda’s? posts. After the fact it didn’t take much to realize that you had similar styles.

    When I first saw your picture with the scribbled hair I got angry. It was like in your face you fools. But something kept nagging. Now maybe I’m still the fool. Many, like me, feel that you aren’t well and in need of help. That still stands.

    But I don’t think that you would physically harm anyone. I still don’t want anyone to take their guard down though just in case. The picture now shows a very sad and lonely man. As people we tend to have a mob mentality. I’ve witnessed it before, and I’ve witnessed it here. I was a part of that.

    There is still a small part of me that says that you deliberately set this up to show how gullible and how easily swayed people are. But the bigger part of me thinks that you are in a lot of pain. I may get flack from this post but right now my concern is for you.

    During your time of grief I prayed for you even though you were an atheist. I will now continue to pray for you, that you will find the peace, that God will hold you tight and protect you in your time of need, that you will be guided to people that will help you. But don't seek the help here. The trust is broken. We don't know if you will continue to play games with us. Please take care of yourself.

    Danny: First I want to say that I don’t condone what you did to those men. I saw the video and it didn’t seem that there was a trigger. It looked premeditated. But what do I know about post-traumatic stress. It looked you were in combat mode but you also looked rather calm and with purpose; not someone falling apart. These are just my observations and I’m not going to play psychiatrist here.

    I do think that you, and Trevor, are in a lot of pain. Maybe some of it was the result of the Witness Org. But the fact is that people are hurting that have never been a part of this org. I think that the witnesses are led to believe that they are unique and some carry it on even when they break away from this org. People hurt period. Like Trevor, I do hope you get some help with this. Maybe you already are. I’m not saying this out of maliciousness or even conceit. I’m hurting right now and I’m going to get some help to cope with it. I will pray for you too that you will come to terms with what has been done to you, so that you and your family can have the life that one deserves.

  • purplesofa
    purplesofa
    I’m hurting right now and I’m going to get some help to cope with it

  • Sunspot
    Sunspot

    (((((Guest With Questions)))))

    I daresay that many of us were hurt by both of these incidents played out here....and feel exactly the same way.

    hugs,

    Annie

  • *summer*
    *summer*

    (((Guest with Questions)))

    A beautiful post...obviously coming from your heart.

    Peace & Love to you...and to all on this board/

  • RollerDave
    RollerDave

    As regards Tragical Trevor, we can deal with it and move on but he has to wake up every day being himself.

    He spent TWO YEARS desperately trying to be somebody else, to be interesting, to be all that he lacks, and it finally came crashing down.

    He must have seen to post about impostors and knew the jig was about to be up, so he had to pull the trigger and have 'linda' die.

    A part of him, pathological as it seems had to have a genuine interest in us, but the sick way he related was the only way he could.

    A sad lonely little man incapable of fitting in among normal folk without concealing himself behind fiction.

    We get to move on, and I think it's time we do, but he has to wake up every day as himself, look in the mirror and see himself, spend every moment being himself...

    If he had to go through all that effort for two years, think how much it must suck every day, being him.

    RD

  • Guest with Questions
    Guest with Questions

    RollerDave: When we heard that "Linda" had passed away we all grieved for him. Now when we realize that it was all a hoax we retreat and vilify him. What he did was wrong. But as a disturbed man does he really realize what he did was wrong?

    I feel that what he is actually going through is much worse than what we thought as a man grieving his wife.

    Many were there for him when his "wife" was dying and many grieved when his "wife" died, but shouldn’t we have some compassion for a man that is dying emotionally and spiritually. Do we now discard him and go on to the next topic of interest.

    In the end he could be lapping this up and having a good laugh. But I don’t think so. He seems painfully sad and it worries me. But even if he is laughing it’s a sure sign that there is something terribly wrong. Nobody invests two years of his life planning a hoax, for what reason?

    I agree that we get to move on, but unless he gets the help he so desperately needs he will never move on; this will destroy him.

    We all have value and many people for whatever reason have been so destroyed because nobody took the time to truly say how important they were (in real life) so they seek value, affirmation through the Internet.

    I’m not here to say that we should hold his hand and take abuse. I do believe that we need to move on. I just hope that he gets the help he so desperately needs, that he does have value, if he would only be true to himself.

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