I prefer "sticks and stones"...

changeling

I can mend from a broken bone much easier than from a broken sprit.

They say "actions speak louder than words", but we are trapped in cyber space where ALL we have are words.

So if our words are cruel, we have no body language or eye contact to soften the blows.

I do appreciate some concialiatory gestures I've seen around here. They will go a long way to keeping this board friendly and "safe" for all of us.

Here is a "Jewel" favorite of mine:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aSH4pOY9X70

Just a little glimpse into my heart.

shell69

Stick and stones was all it was. Our oppinion differed. Our take on what was said was different.

As I've already stated, I absolutley could not hate any of my fellow survivors. You must not ever let any one hurt or damage your spirit again, we've all had enough; but here is where the healing comes in.

I don't know whether this is a saying in USA, but in England we say; 'grow some' ( I acknowledge a little bit crude', but in the last couple of years its got me through)

Be courageous!

((())) Shell69

mentalclearness

Changeling, I can tell you are a very sensitive and sweet, kind person. The things you say you say genuinely and sincerely and with the best of intentions. At times we must develope a tough skin because not everyone has learned to express themselves with tact. I myself am a bit detached and I usually surround myself with frank often blunt people. So I'm "curtida". I know you know what that means....Don't let it get to you. We know what you are made of. Your spirit shines through in what you write. I didn't even waste my time posting on that other thread.

compound complex

Dear changeling,

I've built a lovely "home" from all the sticks and stones hurled my way, grown stronger from the words that did, in reality, hurt me and, finally, have made lemonade from all the lemons LIFE has handed me.

I'm pulling in quite a tidy sum from lemonade stands I've set up all over town.

A few years ago I was an emotional disaster:

We've come a long way, Baby!

Love,

CoCo

Abandoned

So if our words are cruel, we have no body language or eye contact to soften the blows.

I sympathize with how you feel. Lack of body language and facial expressions makes a ripe environment for misunderstandings. But, that's something to think about isn't it? Do you think it would be a good idea to give people the benefit of the doubt when you don't know all of the facts? Even if the person did mean to hurt you, that doesn't mean you have to let them. Giving people the benefit of the doubt can give you peace of mind. Because, really, if they meant their words to hurt you, that defines them, not you.

Here's a short story that came in the mail yesterday. I received it yesterday and I've already benefited more than once from having read it. I hope you enjoy it. The story comes from Bob Proctor's Insight of the Day mailing list. WAC turned me on to it. Every Monday and Friday there's an inspiration story and every Tuesday through Thursday there's a motivational quote. I'll post the URL for signing up at the end. OH, and it's free.

Law Of Opposites Have you ever paid any attention to the idea that there are "two sides to everything?" Think of how often you have heard that.

Look at your hand. It has a front and a back side. Your body has a right and a left side. The automobile or room you are in has an inside and an outside. You couldn't possibly have one without the other.

This is an orderly universe, of which you are a part. The whole universe is governed by laws.

If you have watched The Secret you heard me quote the father of the space program, the late Dr. Warner Von Braun who said the natural laws of the universe are so precise that we do not have any difficulty today building a space ship, sending a person to the moon and timing the landing with the precision of a fraction of a second.

The law I am referring to today is the Law of Polarity or the Law of Opposites.

If it is a long way up to the top of a building, it must be a long way down. If it is a mile from point A to point B, it must be a mile from point B to point A. They are not only opposite, they are equal and opposite.

Everything that happens in your life today will either appear negative or positive. Keep in mind whatever happens must have a positive side to it.

A large majority of the population seems to be mentally programmed to pay attention to the negative side of life and unfortunately, ignore the positive.

Make a decision right now that, regardless of what happens today, you are going to look for the positive aspect of what's happening. Remember... every cloud has a silver lining. Do this again tomorrow and the next day until it becomes a habit to see the positive in everything. You will feel better, you will be more productive, and you will have more friends.

Bob Proctor

Sign up here: http://www.insightoftheday.com/default.asp?affid=1336

summer

Changeling...

All those who posted before me said it so well...

What else is there to say???

Only that you are all survivors here. Some days, leftover anger and bitterness may come out. It is part of healing.

And also that some have more affinity with certain posters...just as in real life.

But deep down, you all share a strong bond. And that is all that matters.

Some on this forum bring the worse out of me {last night I was fit to be tied at some point...and you know it:-) But when their posts make my blood boil, I walk away from the computer. I have that privilege. Then I return with a calm heart...and life goes on.

So please, keep posting from your heart...fluff or whatever. It's all good:-)

*summer*