Spiritual Abuse!

by Gill 3 Replies latest jw friends

  • Gill
    Gill

    For many years I have seen the counsellor at our local surgery. She has been fantastic and has really led to me being able to lead a more or less normal life. She explained that my problems had been caused by being in a cult, my whole life and the bullying and control that goes on in a cult. She also said that the whole pschology department was interested in my case and how I progressed and felt it was time these things were brough out into the open to help everyone.

    Well, yesterday, I went to the surgery to take my son to the doctor and found the counsellors had put up a big board about bullying and abuse.

    At the top of the list was 'Spiritual Abuse'! It gave examples of Spiritual Abuse such as 'Forced Marriage' and 'Excessive Control of your personal life'! I was so pleased to see that the team was reaching out to so many people who suffer from spiritual abuse and recognising it for what it is. Often, young JWs grow up in an oppressive controlled environment and don't realise the harm it is doing to them. Sometimes someone only has to point out that what is happening to you is wrong to get you started down the road to freedom.

  • buffalosrfree
    buffalosrfree

    The society is guilty of spiritual abuse, so are the elders in the local congregations, the constant harping on service, being out in service, the constant haranging to make you feel guilty, that is abuse, the having to sit there through a mind numbing so called book study or watchtower study is also abuse. As if that is not enough, they then spiritually stone those who disagree with them.

  • blondie
    blondie

    Anyone interested in the topic of spiritual abuse might like reading this book. It is not about JWs but religion in general and how people misuse it to abuse people.

    The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse

    Editorial Reviews

    Book Description

    Breaking the Silence on an Abuse Within the Church That Leaves Christians Feeling "Used," Manipulated and Shamed.

    Churches are meant to be safe places where spiritual leaders help and equip the members for the work of service. There are some churches, however, where leaders use their spiritual authority to control and dominate others, attempting to meet their own needs for importance, power, intimacy or spiritual gratification. Through the subtle use of the right "spiritual" words, church members are manipulated or shamed into certain behaviors or performance that ensnares in legalism, guilt and begrudging service.

    This is spiritual abuse, and the results can be shattering. Deeply ingrained spiritual codes of written and unwritten rules control and condemn, wounding believers' spirits and keeping them from the grace and joy of God's kingdom. Believers find themselves enslaved to a system, a leader, a standard of performance that saps true spiritual life.

    This is a message for Christians who feel they are spiritually abused and for those who might be causing it. Authors VanVonderen and Johnson address these important themes and point the way toward freedom:

    What are the abusive spiritual dynamics that can develop in a church?

    How do people get hooked into these abusive systems?

    What are the marks of false spiritual leadership and their impact on a congregation?

    What are the scriptures and doctrinal concepts that c

    About the Author
    David Johnson grew up in a Christian home, the son of a Baptist Minister. There were great benefits to growing up in the church, but they were not all positive. Along with the life, and truth, and purity&151;there was death, and lies and hypocrisy. At a relatively young age he began to wonder why, if its called good news, it didn't feel that good. Johnson vividly recalls the pattern of being 'yelled at' to tell people the good news of Jesus. It struck him that if it really was good news, "why did they have to yell?" Everything, including evangelism felt like a weight.

    Early in his High School years, brokenness in the form of serious family issues, invaded his home. Johnson's initial fear of the trouble was that his parents response would be to add even more weight&try even harder to look good and right. Instead, his father discovered grace and the weight in their family was lifted. For the first time, "how things looked" was not what mattered most and how things really were could be discussed and dealt with without fear.

    Johnson entered the ministry with a deep desire to bring that liberating grace to people who has been weighted down by a system of religious performance. In the process, he discovered that the issue was bigger and more wide spread that he had ever imagined. Recently he discovered a name for it&spiritual abuse.

    Johnson's education includes a B.A. in Psychology from Bethel College in St. Paul, Minnesota. Further education followed at Bethel Seminary and Trinity Evangelical School, Deerfield, Illinois. While attending Trinity, he served as the Senior Pastor at the Melrose Bible Church, in Melrose Park, Illinois. Johnson is presently Senior Pastor at Church of the Open Door of Crystal, Minnesota.

    David and his wife have 4 children. They make their home in Minnesota.

  • WTWizard
    WTWizard

    The thing I think smacks of spiritual abuse the most is that they were trying to keep me from finding a wife. They would arrange for all the sisters to reject me at a$$emblies behind my back, without giving me any evidence of why or what was going on. Then they tried to tell me to just meet men (that closely followed the Puketower study from the 4/1/1995 Puketower that blamed Satan for it). I wonder if they wanted me in that fxxxing Ministerial Training School so I could be carted anywhere around the country if the need came up.

    And that need is worse now. I have noted many on this board that were once hounders and are now totally out. Others are still JWs that have stepped down as hounders, and may or may not continue as JWs at least nominally. Congregations have gone down from near 100 in attendants to the 50s or lower (the most extreme example is one where a congregation in Massachusetts was struggling to get meeting attendance out of the teens). And you do not reject an assignment on the grounds of having just received another--if you get a notice you are needed in Los Angeles and another that you are needed in Chicago, they expect you to fulfill both. Not the sort of crap I want.

    Setting people up to be something they never wanted so they can serve a religious organization definitely qualifies as spiritual abuse.

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