by lavendar 7 Replies latest jw friends
My son has been studying with the "gurus" at the Kingdom Hall for the last few years.
For those of you who were non-JWs most of your life (and used to celebrate Christmas), then joined the WTS cult........didn't you MISS spending Christmas with your family??
Lavendar
Lavendar, hey there, I DID get your pm awhile back and I am sorry I havent' gotten back to you. No good excuse, so I'm just really sorry.
I DO think I know you, but you know....there are so many stories that are like yours it is possible we don't know each other.
Do you know if your son is baptized yet?
I am soooooooooooooo sorry that he will not be with you. I hate the way this religion has screwed up so many families and broken them up.
Dearest Lavender......I was 30 when I was baptized into the WTS and had five children that I ripped the holidays away from. I DID miss the holiday dinners with my family AND my hubby's family, but I convinced my self that as much as I was "hurting"....that I was surely "pleasing Jehovah" and would eventually be blessed and rewarded for my "sacrifices". The worst thing of all was waking up to realize that I was ONLY pleasing the Watchtower after all was said and done. Hopefully your son will see this in the very near future.
hugs,
Annie
Lavendar - I used to feel torn in half about it when I converted because my family had always had it. My then husband still celebrated so it still went ahead with me trying not to be part of it which I found difficult and depressing. Now I am having Christmas again and my son doesn't so he won't be spending Christmas with me either. What unnecessary chaos, divisions and pain the WT causes us all. Try not to despair as your son may see the WT for what it is one day. That is my hope for my son too.
Maddie
Hi BlackSwan! Hope you're doing well! No, he's not baptized yet, thank God......and I hope & pray he never does!
Hi Annie! Yes! I hope, too, that my son sees the REAL truth about the WTS. I'm so glad you're now OUT! Congratulations! :o)
Hi Maddie! I'm so sorry you're in the same boat as me. Yes, I hope both our sons see the WTS for what it is someday. :o)
Hugs to you all,
Lavendar
...I convinced my self that as much as I was "hurting"....that I was surely "pleasing Jehovah" and would eventually be blessed and rewarded for my "sacrifices". The worst thing of all was waking up to realize that I was ONLY pleasing the Watchtower after all was said and done.
Yes. Not the rank commercialism, but the companionship of my family.
I'm glad that your son is not baptized yet, lavendar. I hope that one day soon he will walk (no run) away from the WTS.
5 years ago when I divorced my ex witness wife I dreamed of how I was going to make Christmases and birthdays even better than those I had sorted for my class in shool which I loved every December. we spliyt in November and jobe were being done on the house she was moving to (her100% choice) . I put up a small tree and she wouldn't come into the house. Those ******************** elders control stuff they have no buiseness in and -- all return of the universe energies to them what they have dished out to me without me wishing any harm on them!!
Anyhow I was pulled beyond my boundaries but loved the idea of my kids around and got ready to earn everything it took to help them all out but **** came down and pulled me under so I lost my job and all sorts and I was a party pooper to my ex non religiuos family who hadn't got the inside take but fed my 4 kids (14-21) all manner of garbage. I was a villain to them for going JW in the first place and a villain to JWs for not sticking their ****, and a villain to myself for not being able to do the job I wanted and give my kids a better future, which then made it look like I couldn't hack it and didn't care fpor them which some of them fully believed!! So I dont do Christmas and I despise JWphilosophy!! A path I've been put on!!
Happy Christmas! I know exactly how you feel.
A very merry christmas to each and everyone of you
My son has also been studying with the witnesses, i phoned last night to tell him i would be over to see them around 10am on Monday to give them some gifts, i arrived on time and my daughter-in-law said he has just gone out, i gave them the gifts, had a coffee and left, as i drove away from the house my son appeared in his car and gave me a wave.
qc
