When I escaped the tower, I didnt really worry or consider getting my wife out. I had been in for 31 years and I knew I had a lot of work to do rebuilding my engine.
I also realized that as witnesses one of our main purposes was rebuilding other peoples engines. I got over that real fast. Plus all of the self help books and therapy basically says thats a no, no.
Back in 83, I told my wife and family, I'm never going to the kingdumb hall again and dont talk to me in witness talk.
After that, I took my wife out to dinner on the weekends, took her to the movies, went on vacation with her.
10 years latter she escaped the tower and has never been back.
What you got in your favor is the wactower is a house of cards built in the sand.
I have believed since I was about 19 that when the student is ready the teacher appears.
I dont try to make someone into something, I accept them for what they are. If I like what they are I may associate with them.
On the down side, theres some real rocks out there attending the kingdumb hall and I have seen some that spend a lifetime in it.
If you can see its not the truth and your husband doesnt, that would mean you are not evenly yoked.
For me back in 83, it was pretty simple and even I was pretty sluggish. The Wactower advertised the end of the world in 1975. 1976 came and everything seemed pretty much the same.
I didnt need confused people telling me how to live my life. Life is difficult enough you dont need fools wispering in your ear. Still it took me till 83 to say enough. Because it is a cult and a social organization that permeates all aspects of your life.
So you could play subliminal tapes of crissis of concience to your husband at night and mention all of the good things you read here at jwd, and your husband may be in denial. Most likely he and all Jehobers witnesses are in denial. This is the information age. When I was a witness I was in denial. My grandfather told me, I was wasting my time with those people. He said they were predicting the end of the world since he was a kid.
And I was in denial, I saw the old publications in the library and that my mother had accumilated, it seemed my grandfather was right. Plus the elders didnt want us reading or using the old publications.
Something about a funky light bulb. And I was in denial.
Your husband might enjoy the social aspects and structure of being a witness. When I was a witness, I had people to party with, go out to dinner with, play golf with, play softball and football and hockey with.
Here is another reality, You become what you think about. Thats why the wactower keeps you so busy going to meetings and in field circus. They keep you thinking about being saved at armegedon by being in the ark of the kingdumb hall.
So you are to busy to think of anything else and you are being scared.
I dont know what you situation is and being a female and a witness female it is probably different than mine was. But if you're going to the meetings with him that is a pretty strong message for Go Jehober!
But maybe your situation dictates that is necessary for your survival.
If you keep going to the meetings you risk falling further down their hole of delusion and unreality and possible loosing yourself and becoming a wactower slave.
Because we become what we think about.
Because you are a woman in the Wactower society, that makes you a second class citizen so maybe what worked for me wont work for you.
Maybe your idea is worth a try.
Still on the bright side the wactower society is a house of cards built in the sand. I dont know how long it will take for your husband to see that it has fallen down and been swept out to sea.
I came out of denial after I had seen a number of friends die because they didnt take a blood transfussion. Plus I almost lost my wife when she hemoraged after having our son.
That weighed on me over the years. Plus I was around long enough to see how the wactower changes like I change my underwear.
I saw people die because they could not get an organ transplant, a kidney. Now I know witnesses that are on their second kidney and elders.
What kind of confused God is running that printing corporation?
Plus I came out of denial because life is tough and it felt that everyday trying to make a living without an education, thanks to the wactower.
