The ongoing saga between Princess Boo Hoo and the Queen of Guilt

by Princess Daisy Boo 5 Replies latest jw friends

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  Princess Daisy Boo

  My mom and dad live about 40 minutes drive away. I am avoiding seeing them and land up making silly excuses not to drive over there, even on a long weekend like this one, just because I do not feel like dealing with them - dreading dealing with the kids mentioning easter eggs, or a guilt trip about the memorial. Avoiding dealing with the fact that Mom is hurt because of what I told her. Things between us are so strained and I just dont want to have to try and make small talk while we both skirt around the bigger issue being her issues with my "apostacy". Maybe things would be easier if they just shunned me?

  Uggh!
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  Leolaia

  The familiar wedge the WTS drives between families. I take it you were raised in the trooth?
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  keyser soze

  Yes, I know about this all too well, which is why I try to avoid family gatherings myself. The last time I was over at my parents' house was last week, when I was doing them a favor, by giving my mom a ride home from work, so my dad could keep the car for field service. It was 50 miles out of my way, round trip. Immediately, my dad starts up with me about the memorial saturday night, and have I been getting to the meetings. My mom is at least smart enough to not bring the issue up, because she already knows the answer.
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  jamiebowers

  My mom shuns be completely with the exception of giving medical information about her side of the family when the need arises. I've often wondered what it would be like to have at least occassional contact with her. Either way, it seems heartbreaking to me.
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  potentialJWconvertswife

  Tragic. I'm so sorry you have to go thru this, princess. There are many reasons "regular" folks avoid seeing their parents, but it's sad when you actually want to spend time with them, but feel you can't because of the dub issues. I've never experienced shunning, but it seems to me you should be thankful you still have any kind of connection with your parents. Look at poor Jamie- she would probably love just to hear her mom's voice on the phone... -Potential
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  Princess Daisy Boo

  You know - there is just no happy solution to this dilemma and I think that is what gets to me!

  I love my parents and I am so torn between wanting them in my life and wanting to be there for them in their old age (my parents are both nearing 70) and just wanting to be at peace in my own life with my own decisions.

  I truly feel for those being shunned so I should probably not wish it upon myself, but it seems that it may be the inevitable conclusion.