I'm glad I listen!

by LDH 9 Replies latest social family

  • LDH
    LDH

    Well a little shock here kids.

    On Monday, I was talking to my daughter about her (unusual) poor performance in school, in one particular class. (Straight A kid) Now I know she doesn't like this teacher's style, so I try to encourage her to learn to deal with it--I mean, we don't all like each other's style but we live in the same world. Blah blah blah.

    Anyhow, she told me she was 'having problems focusing.' For a minute, I thought she meant because the damn teacher is like 80 and boring that her attention was easily lost. I almost snapped at her and told her to pay more attention. Instead, I asked her what she meant. She said, "Sometimes when I look at my paper, I can't see what the teacher has written too clearly. It takes a moment to come into focus."

    Light bulb went off! I scheduled her an eye exam yesterday. The upshot is, she has perfect vision, but her focusing muscles are a little weak. Therefore, when she switches her focus from distance (blackboard) to close (desk) it was in fact taking her a minute to focus!

    So off we trekked to get glasses. I let her choose the style, and I must say she chose some (expensive) but beautiful cerulian blue frames. What the insurance didn't cover, I paid out of pocket. $70 bucks. Big stinking deal. Everyone in the store came over to tell her how beautiful she looked.

    When we got home, she got right on her homework and finished it in record time. The nicest part is, she actually thanked me for spending the day helping her solve her little problem!

    I'm not kidding you guys, she's hugged me and told me thank you about a bajillion times. She proudly showed them off to Dad and made a special effort to look nice today. I almost cried.

    I'm so glad I listened and didn't jump to conclusions. Esp. when she later told me that the teacher would often ask her, "When are you gonna get started?" and she would answer, "I can't focus." The teacher heard her but didn't listen to her. Poor kid, didn't think to say, "I can't SEE." LOL

    Lisa

  • Sirona
    Sirona

    Aw! what a sweet story! You sound like a great parent.

    My brother had eye troubles at school and unfortunately it was only diagnosed late, so he was way behind! Happily he did more study later in life and now has letters after his name (Im proud of him!)

    Sirona

  • LDH
    LDH

    Sirona,
    I'm so glad I caught this. I truly almost discounted her statement because perfect vision runs in my family.

    Also, I'm wondering if your brother was ever accused of 'daydreaming' or 'not paying attention?'

    The wacky thing is, I had just taken her for her routine physical a month ago, and they pronounced her vision and hearing 'perfect.' Of course, the only thing they check is DISTANCE vision with the wall chart, not close up vision.

    After my little lesson, I'd encourage you ALL to make an eye appt for your children, at the OPTOMOTRIST. As the Optomotrist told me yesterday, "How you know you have good vision if you've never been tested? It's relative without a full examination."

    Lisa

  • mommy
    mommy

    Great Lisa!
    I am glad she is okay with wearing them too. It is good she was able to pick them out. I know I require glasses but the kind that I could get were always the ugly ones so I never wore them growing up. My problem is actually one eye is farsighted and the other is near sighted but both together are able to paint a fairly clear picture. It is funny if I close one eye, the world is a different place! I can't believe how blind I really am. You just reminded me, I should go get checked out too...lol

    I find it amazing that kids really don't know how to express themselves, just as you said...it would have been easier if she just said, "I can't see!" I am glad you took the time to listen, and I am sure your daughter is as well.
    wendy

    Blind faith can justify anything.~Richard Dawkins

  • joelbear
    joelbear

    Hi Lisa,

    Bravo for you and I mean a great big Bravo. Of course your daughter was thankful. Children are powerless and dependant on those that love them and most kids know when a parent is going out of there way to help them.

    hugs

    Joel

  • Nathan Natas
    Nathan Natas

    Lisa,

    You done good! Sounds like you're got a pretty good kid there, too.

  • ISP
    ISP

    Congrats Lisa!

    Good one!

    ISP

  • logical
    logical

    I wish my sisters were friends with your daughter, maybe her influence would rub off on them and they would show my mum some respect.

  • Sirona
    Sirona

    Hi Lisa

    Im not sure about my brother being accused of daydreaming. He is 8 years older than me and all I know is what hes told me years later.

    I agree parents should be aware of this possibility and get their kids eyes checked.

    Sirona

  • yrs2long
    yrs2long

    I hear it's the "in" thing now to wear glasses in school.

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