Elder burnout

by easyreader1970 8 Replies latest jw friends

  • easyreader1970
    easyreader1970

    I know that some have said that they aren't seeing it in their local congregations. But I have been in two congregations in the past 2 years and they are both struggling to keep elders and ministerial servants. One much worse than the other, though.

    Some elders have been forced to step down because their children have acted in ways that indicate that the elder was not presiding over his household well. I can think of two situations where the elders' daughters were lesbians or bisexual. So two elders sat down because of that (one left the congregation). One elder disappeared because he owed too much money to fellow elders and, in the end, he abandoned his wife. A couple of them just quit specifically because of elder burnout. The load became too much to bear because of the elder/servant shortage.

    In my current congregation, I was told a couple of weeks ago that they desperately needed more book studies (the few that they had were too large) but they didn't have the number of qualified brothers to handle them. Many times the elders have to conduct the bible studies deathly ill because there are no brothers to replace them. People are not reaching out for servant-ship and few of the servants actually want to be elders. They asked a servant I know twice in the last twelve months and he said he doesn't have time for it.

    If these are problems that are happening worldwide (or at least nationwide), it seems logical that the Society would want to keep the few elders that they have left--especially since they can't convince any more to sign up. So dumping the book study seems like the necessary move, though desperate. This might also explain the shortening of the public talk to 30 minutes instead of 45. Ostensibly, these things are being done for the benefit of everyone but really it is the Society reacting to negativity and apathy by the elder bodies.

    I wonder what else they are going to do to retain elders or even encourage more to "reach out."

    er

  • Open mind
    Open mind

    Ideas to help Elder recruitment/retention:

    1. Require all Kingdom Halls to get big plasma TVs and cable with ESPN/HD for the back room.

    2. Get a keg refrigerator which can go right next to the congregation files.

    3. INCREASE the frequency of required Elder's Meetings from quarterly to monthly. Maybe weekly if things go well.

    4. All elder's meetings will be opened with a coin toss.

    5. Congregation concerns can only be discussed during commercials. So talk fast Brother Blather.

    OM

  • yknot
    yknot

    We have many Elders feeling both apathy and ambivalence.

    They feel trapped but reason better to be in a position to influence then to lose everything and going full-apostate.

  • bigmouth
    bigmouth

    I think you may be on to something there about lack of qualified men to take the Book Study. Obviously no one believes the 'cost of fuel' excuse.

    As a matter of interest, my old congregation had 5 or 6 elders ten years ago. Now it has none and elders are assigned weekly from congregations 90 KM away!

  • easyreader1970
    easyreader1970
    I think you may be on to something there about lack of qualified men to take the Book Study. Obviously no one believes the 'cost of fuel' excuse.

    My wife, who is the most hardcore JW you could ever meet, doesn't even buy the "fuel" excuse. It doesn't make any sense given their prior fondness of the book study arrangement. But like a good JW soldier, she stopped questioning the decision a couple of weeks ago and has accepted that the governing body must be right.

    er

  • Tired of the Hypocrisy
    Tired of the Hypocrisy

    They feel trapped but reason better to be in a position to influence then to lose everything and going full-apostate.

    Full apostate? I thought there was no gray area for apostasy. Even a little apostasy is full apostasy isn't it? JK I just yanked your chain! I know what you mean, though. These poor guys are sitting around waiting for a lightning bolt to split them in two as they ponder the reasons their families might leave them. I do not envy their position at all.

  • sass_my_frass
    sass_my_frass

    Yep. Relieving them of the book study is going to keep a lot more of them on board.

  • WTWizard
    WTWizard

    I hope it means they are going to have a miserable time next year with the Lost Sheep Roundup of 2009. If they are in fact going to start hounding inactives to go back, it is going to be like completing the Great Waste of Paper Distribution Campaign for the REJECT Jesus Party this past March. I hope something like 98% of that drive is undone.

    And I'm not going to lift a finger.

  • hamsterbait
    hamsterbait

    Since the 1993 talks at the D. A$$emblies, how many people have been DF for speaking up about inconsistencies and contradictions in the Borg? How many elders "HARBOR" similar doubts.

    How many Elders are now feeling bloodguilty because they DFed people for things that now would not bring this?

    Porn viewing DF - 6 months later don't have to DF but thos already DF remain so (WHY???)

    Blood issue.

    Blah blah blech!

    The elders are now upholding two sets of values, one for a group disciplined under old rules, and now upholding new rules that contradict them....

    Same with doctrines. Apostates ( like Grace who denied Christ came invisibly in 1914) are now proved to have argued correctly, but they remain under sentence of death.

    They are like the dogs experimented on, which were punished for bad behavior. Then the criteria were reversed, they were now punished for what was formerly good behavior.

    They became incontinent, nervous and apathetic. At this stage any further attempts at punitive training failed. The dogs lost interest, and began gnawing themselves, and scratching bald patches on their fur.

    The Elders are fast losing hope of ever knowing which way to turn. Like obedient, loving little puppies, their trust has been so abused (I speak only of good men here - not careerist elders) they have thrown up their hands in despair to drown themselves.

    HB

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