I was the first in my family to get out of the org., by a good ten years or more. In fact my youngest sister has been out only for a couple of years. While they never shunned me, they did draw back and our relationship became more distant. Eventually my mother died and my sisters found their way out of the org. What's interesting to me is that they drew back from me while they were JWs and I was the apostate. But now that they are out too, although we communicate more, I still feel like the outsider. I guess we all got in the habit of seeing me that way.
more on rejection from JW family
by Hortensia 4 Replies latest jw friends
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compound complex
Greetings, Hortensia:
I understand the feeling of being on the outside though no one shuns me per se. I realize that I am totally different internally from what I was even in the not too distant past. This despite my still maintaining a basic JW personality and jargon amongst my JW friends, clients and family.
Would my having a full beard be some sort of giveaway?
No one treats me rudely, however ...
CoCo La Barbe
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Hortensia
yeah, I'm used to it after all these years. No one is rude to me, either. And I am working on a closer relationship with my younger sister.
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Mysterious
It takes effort to have and maintain relationships. The fact that you got out of the habit of having a good relationship just means you need to work harder to get it back, it isn't automatic.
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Hortensia
that's actually a good way to put it - we got out of the habit of a good relationship. You're right, it just takes some effort