Criteria for Selecting a Marriage Mate within Jehovah's Witnesses

by WTWizard 8 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

  • WTWizard
    WTWizard

    Many people are familiar with what attracts people to someone of the opposite sex. For some, it is physical beauty. Others, it's wealth. Personality is another. There are other physical and emotional criteria as well. Some are attracted to others that are intelligent or that are more fully integrated than the average person, while others might be attracted to someone that is less intelligent and needs to be led.

    Which is fine. However, what does the Filthful and Disgraceful Slavebugger have to say about this? They have many a washtowel that tells us that none of the above mentioned criteria should matter at all. These are "physical" things, which Jehovah hates. Instead, they stress "spiritual" things. And by "spiritual", I do not mean having a sense of looking for the real truth, or having a sense of fully integrated honesty.

    Instead, they mean their idea of spirituality. Men are supposed to look for "sisters" that are pioneers (one of the highest items, since there is very little else they can do), are daughters of hounders, in pioneer families, and that have gone to (or are in) Beth Hell. To hell with the looks, personality, intelligence, or wealth. Bonus points can be earned if a "sister" has (or is currently) served/ing where the "need" is great, is or was a missionary, or has a specialty of knowing a language (including sign language) so they can help those who do not speak English or that are hard of hearing.

    The "sisters" are supposed to select a mate based on similar standards. These are pioneering (still a favorite), being hounders or assistant hounders (only men can have these burdens), having been to Beth Hell or currently there, missionary history or currently missionaries, having been through the Value Destroyer Training School and successfully completed all their assignments, and complete submission to the Filthful and Disgraceful Slavebugger in making decisions for the whole household. Again, such things as looks, personality, riches, and intelligence are to be totally disregarded.

    This is blatantly against common sense. I never could see to marry someone that was totally ugly, stupid, a tyrant or one that had a lousy personality, broke, and had poorly integrated thinking solely because they were pioneers, having been through Beth Hell, came from a pioneer family, and was a child of a hounder. This is another one that the Filthful and Disgraceful Slavebugger can take and shove up their axxes.

  • Lady Zombie
    Lady Zombie

    I remember when I was a teenager, we had a Sunday talk about selecting a marriage mate.

    The speaker thought he was hilarious and tried to make the talk a stand up comedy routine. And of course the congregation ate it up. Since it was so long ago, I'll have to paraphrase a little. Not a lot though since I remember this talk vividly. It made me that nauseated.

    "Now this is for the brothers. Yeah, I'm going to pick on you first. [laughter]. You may have your eye on someone right now. She seems like a spiritual person, she's in field service very frequently, she dresses well, seems to be kind, and so on. But how good of a homemaker will she be? Now, you brothers need to find this out since you'll be living in the same house and her. Now this sister is probably still living at home, so perhaps ask her to show you her room. With the proper supervision of course. I know what you brothers thought just now. You thought I slipped up didn't you? [laughter]. Take a look at the way she keeps her room. Is it clean, orderly, and tidy upon a snap inspection? Or perhaps is it cluttered and in disarray? Sure she's busy in the ministry but having good homemaking skills is required in a christian household."

    "Now you sisters. I know what you're thinking. He looks so cute tending the magazine counter. You've seen him play ball with the other brothers and you're impressed at how athletic he is. He's always cracking jokes. Hey, how do you think I attracted my wife? [laughter]. But you should ask yourself, is he strong spiritually? Does he put Kingdom interests first? Will he be a good provider? You should ask yourself all these things because just at Christ is the head of the congregation, so he will be the head of you. You will need to take extra care in selecting a mate that is first, spiritually strong, and second, his ability to provide for his family."

    BLLLARRRRRFFFFFF!!!!!!

  • momzcrazy
    momzcrazy

    I was always told to marry someone who loved Jehovah more than he loved me.

    momz

  • minimus
    minimus

    Get home schooling if possible, pioneer at 14 and get married to a real spiritual partner by 40 years of age BUT don't rush to get married anytime soon now, as we are living in the very last days of the very last days.

  • Satanus
    Satanus

    I couldn't correlate that advice w some of the life long pio sis's. Nobody wanted them, or maybe they didn't want. Anyway, they remained on the 'available' list as long as i was there.

    S

  • Farkel
    Farkel

    :Take a look at the way she keeps her room. Is it clean, orderly, and tidy upon a snap inspection? Or perhaps is it cluttered and in disarray? Sure she's busy in the ministry but having good homemaking skills is required in a christian household."

    Are you sure he was talking about looking for a wife instead of a maid?

    Farkel

  • WTWizard
    WTWizard

    Either way, there is no basis for a trial run. Which is what fornication is really about--test driving a potential mate. You will get to know whether that pioneer Beth Hellite sister is really going to work out, or that hounder/pioneer/Beth Hellite "brother" is also a tyrant. And, if they are really that busy in field circus that the house is a mess (or in disrepair), maybe they are doing too much field circus.

    Love Jehovah more than one's spouse?

  • TinyDancer124
    TinyDancer124

    It's not just JWs who are told to put God first. My friend who is a born-again Christian said that she was told to put God first, then her husband, then her children.

    However, I'm not quite sure that's the same as LOVING God more than you love your spouse or children.

  • BluesBrother
    BluesBrother
    I was always told to marry someone who loved Jehovah more than he loved me.

    We were told that too...but nobody did...

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