I"m not just directing this just to the women I think this can happen to a Man or a
Women. Theres a time in your life, I'll go back to when my family was young that a
woman in my case, you are so pre-occupied with raising your children, taking them where ever
yes meetings and all that crap. Working if you do so, I did. Taking care of household responsibilities
I would say at times it was overwhelming. Sometimes seeming as a madhouse trying to keep up with life.
But then, all of a sudden your kids leave home...and there you are. What do I do, or really who am I,
you don't remember what you even like, its a whole new life you need to get to know. "You lose you" like Jk666
mentioned on another thread with a different twist but I think it applies here.
I think thats easy to do. You don't know yourself,
which I always thought was a midlife crisis. But now I feel its part of life and perhaps the nuturing side of us
why this may happen always taking care of others.
I wonder if this happens to guys, or perhaps you just don't b#tch as much...tee hee hee
I know I have become me now after 40...lol
hope4others
Losing Yourself.....
by Hope4Others 3 Replies latest jw friends
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Hope4Others
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wings
I'm working on it Hope....lost myself completely....not a good place to go. I'll let you know later if I can find myself again, I think I'm hiding (and I don't blame myself for the effort)
wings
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ex-nj-jw
Yup I can definately relate. Although my "finding myself stage" started when my youngest got his drivers license. Now don't get me wrong it was great not having to drive him around all the time, but that's when it hit me that they don't need me as much as they used to. I found myself being home alone more (I'm a homebody and hubby is always running around here and there). That's when I decided I needed to find myself again. What do I like, what are my interests. For years it's been all about the kids and when they grow up and you are not needed anymore it's a strange feeling.
I don't think men go through it like we do though. Although my hubby has been a great dad, for whatever reason I was the one always running around dropping off and picking up, making meals, screaming and yelling and kicking butts Anyway, my baby will be going to college in August and I'll have only one at home, middle child I wonder if he'll ever leave..................
I'll let you know if I ever find myself, I'm still searching.......
nj
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changeling
I get you Hope. You're still there and so are the rest of us. Let's be "us" for the time that remains and go out with a bang!
changeling :)