A SAD AND LONELY TURKEY DAY

by messenger 3 Replies latest jw friends

  • messenger
    messenger

    How could this widow possibly be sad and lonely with the spiritual paradise of brothers and sisters who are involved in the great comfort work following the world trade centers? Shouldn't this brother's family be offered financial aid by the local congregation?

    The silence of Jehovah's Witnesses screams the point of what a farce the spiritual paradise pretends to be.

    . http://dailynews.yahoo.com/h/nypost/20011121/cm/a_sad_and_lonely_turkey_day_for_sept_11_widow_1.html
    Wednesday November 21 03:52 AM EST
    A SAD AND LONELY TURKEY DAY FOR SEPT. 11 WIDOW
    By ANDREA PEYSER
    STAR ORTIZ was deep in thought on the living-room couch when she looked up. And she panicked.

    Her baby, Rebecca, 10 months old, was playing there a second ago. Where had she gone?

    Star yelled for the child and for her parents. She ran to the kitchen. And Rebecca was just standing there, smiling.

    Standing there.

    "I couldn't believe it!" Star told me yesterday. "She'd walked there all by herself. For the first time! It was so beautiful."

    Then, the ecstatic mother grew sad. Happy thoughts tend to end this way.

    "I wish Paul was there to see it," she said. "He would be so thrilled."

    The last time Star, 21, saw her husband, Paul, was early in the morning on Sept. 11. Paul, also 21, kissed her gently before leaving their Brooklyn home, and leaving for work at Windows on the World, where he was to set up computers for Bloomberg.

    Rebecca had just started pulling herself up on her feet the day Paul left. "He couldn't wait to see her walk," Star said.

    Rebecca has gotten pretty good at the walking thing since taking those first steps last month. But she still likes to say just one word.

    "Dada," she says, over and over.

    Star, too, gets stuck on a single thought.

    "It is still my hope that the phone will ring and someone will tell me, ‘I think I saw him,' " said Star. "I still have hope."

    A gaping hole was blown into Star's heart on Sept. 11. But the days keep on passing. The baby grows. The bills pile up. And Paul is still gone.

    Tomorrow, Star's mother will cook Thanksgiving dinner. Where once the table overflowed with family, the event will be far smaller this year.

    On Dec. 7, Rebecca will celebrate her first birthday. And while Paul, a Jehovah's Witness, did not observe birthdays, Star will keep a seat open for him.

    Yet, it is hard for Star to think of celebrating, when everyday life has become so overwhelming.

    Paul was his family's breadwinner. Since he went missing, his employer, Bloomberg, has helped pay the rent. But Star said she was turned away from two charities set up to help families of trade center victims because her husband was not a cop or a firefighter.

    Star has had to rely on her parents for financial help. Lately, she's turned to a friend, a lawyer, to help navigate the maze of paperwork required to cut loose any benefits to which she might be entitled.

    Next month, Star plans to leave the home she shared with Paul, and take baby Rebecca to live with her parents in Williamsburg.

    "I couldn't deal with that apartment alone," she said. "It was just too much."

    Soon, it will be Christmas. Star hasn't even thought about that.

  • avengers
    avengers

    The whole world gave money. So much that the money stream had to be stopped. According to what you said in your letter, you should have a part of what we all gave. Don't think of it as charity. Your husband gave his life. If there's anything I can do just say the word.

  • mommy
    mommy

    Messenger,
    Thanks for posting this. I cannot imagine each and every family that ahs been affected by this tragedy. Personally I don't think I can handle hearing too many stories about it. As far as the JW's not stepping up to help, that seems typical. If the child was older and going to meetings, I bet they would be thre, but now the little girl and mother have been written off.

    This post did bring back memories of the saddest Turkey day I ever had. I was 12 or 13 at the time, and our family went to the movies. After the movie we were standing in line in the restrooms, laughing and joking, and an older woman at the end of the line caught my eye.

    She was standing all alone, and looking down at the ground uncomfortably. I realized it was my grandmother, my fathers mother. She had drove 40 miles to come to this theater to watch a movie on Turkey day, because she had no family to share it with. And here in this restroom was all of her grandchildren, laughing and having a good time. My stomach dropped and I felt so sick realizing how sad her holidays must be.

    The JW's faith does not only affect those inside, but all of the family members that are not a part of it. We invited her out to eat, or to come over to our house, but she was crying at this point. She had to get home before dark, and she was content with the turkey sandwich be brought along and ate in the car by herself.

    I still cry about that day, such a weird twist to find her there, and on such a monumental day for all Americans.
    wendy

    When I leave, you will know I have been here

  • BoozeRunner
    BoozeRunner

    Hi all,

    Amazing, isnt it?

    How could this widow possibly be sad and lonely with the spiritual paradise of brothers and sisters who are involved in the great comfort work following the world trade centers? Shouldn't this brother's family be offered financial aid by the local congregation?
    This is truly sad, but common with JWs. My experiences after my wife died showed me the lack of love as well as common sense when it comes to JWs and tragedy.

    The silence of Jehovah's Witnesses screams the point of what a farce the spiritual paradise pretends to be.
    More like spiritual HELL.

    Boozy

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