....and you and their family dont speak? Do you go to the funeral and have to deal with the living in order to pay respects to the dead? My sister and I havent spoken to our father and his wife for a few years now because the intrusive, overbearing wife wont let our father speak to us, write to us or even have lunch with us...WITHOUT HER. When we call him, she is ALWAYS on the phone. When I send emails SHE answers them. When they send cards to my kids, SHE signs them. She has reemed out both my sister and I for various things that she wanted done her way that we refused to do and for not calling enough or not asking about HER kids and HER grandkids or for sending thank you notes to them in a timely manner when SHE sends cards to our children. God there is a whole litany of things...and my p*whipped father just lets her run all over us. The result of which is we have stopped trying to communicate with our father because we cant get by the pitbull. And he told us he refuses to do anything without her and thats that. So...last week our step sister's (her daughter whom we have known since 1979) husband died at age 45 of lung cancer. He was the UPS man who would come to the school where my sister worked every day for several years and they had a great relationship. Then when we fell out with step sisters mother...all th step siblings stopped talking to us as well. So when he fell ill a year ago, we only found out about it by accident and didnt know he had passed away until my sisters husband READ IT IN THE PAPER two days ago! The funeral is this Saturday. Im 1200 miles away and cant go, but my sister is torn whether to go or not because she doesnt want to deal with my father, step mother and the step siblings and their glares. I told her to go last minute and stay in the back of the large Catholic church, then just leave after it is over and avoid confrontation but to go out of her friendship for this man.
So should she go?