Do You Allow Others To Shun/Ignore You?

by White Dove 8 Replies latest jw friends

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  White Dove

  I have the type of personality that when people that I love ignore me, I don't allow it.

  I'm relentless. I go after them and make the relationship work, if I want them in my life, that is.

  If I get sick of them, that's a different story.

  I am not df'd so don't deal with the bros and sis's ignoring me. I actually want them to.

  But, if family tried it and I want them in my life, they would not be able to shun me.

  I'd be there at their door step expecting to get in the door. Of course, I'd have food in my hands.

  Has anyone else actually done this?

  I think I'm not stating it right. Sorry.
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  Awakened at Gilead

  I hear you dovey... I don't let others shun me... when the phone rings, and they ask for someone else without acknowledging my existence, I will say in a pleasant voice, "well, kgfkjkh, how are you doing?". This puts the shunning on them and not me. And I send out emails to JWs and family whether they want it or not (not everyday, about once a month).

  Lance
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  White Dove

  Good going!

  They like to say that the df'd person is doing the shunning because of getting df'd, but by not playing their game, the shunned prove them the liars they are.

  I'm not df'd and am not shunned, but if I ever was, I would never shun them.

  I'd be like a boil on their butts! They'd better pay attention to me or it'll continue to hurt.

  Hey, I'll be like those Revelation scorpions!
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  sweetface2233

  You can't make other people do anything. If someone doesn't want to talk to me, then he/she doesn't want to talk to me. If that person ignores my calls and emails, then I stop calling and sending emails. If someone is tossing me aside like I am garbage, then I definitely won't go out of my way to keep them in my life. In the end, it's their loss.
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  crazyblondeb

  LOL

  I have to work with an elder. I have to deal with him, and his staff very frequently. I go out of my way to make him deal with me. He KNOWS I know, that he can't be rude to me at work. It's really rather funny!!
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  DJ_Q

  I just recognized your profile picture. That is way too cool. What book was that out of?

  DJ_Q
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  BizzyBee

  I'm relentless. I go after them and make the relationship work, if I want them in my life, that is.

  Didn't I used to date you?
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  Finally-Free

  I won't force myself on people who don't want me, but if they choose to shun me they'd better be certain about it. I'll hold them to their decision. If they try to reconcile somewhere down the road they'll be in for a rude awakening.

  W
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  moshe

  I have no JW's in my life today, but 20 years ago I made sure to greet every JW I met in public. When they refused to acknowledge me in public I always anounced to the public in a loud voice why I was being shunned and that JW's would do that to anyone who left their KH. I even had on sister lean halfway into a freezer full of frozen vegetables in her effort to hide from me. She stayed down a long time- but I just waited for her to come up for air.