I'm still trying to make sense out of sex and the so called bibical view by the WTS. I guess to be fair to a certain extent the WTS is only trying to follow the bible's view about sex, but I often wonder if maybe the current understanding is incorrect.
Lets examine homosexuality for a moment. For a long time I've always beleived what the society has taught in that homosexuality is wrong. But now that I've gotten older and I've talked with people who are gay I realize that they don't choose their sexuality. Is it right to condemn or punish a person for something that they have no control over? To be completely honest that hardly seems fair. From the experiences that I've heard and read it appears that many gay people have tried to supress their natural tendecies in order to please God and those around them. But as we all know sex is one of the most powerful urges a human can experience and to go through an entire lifetime ignoring those urges is nothing short of physical and emotional torture.
Also consider the vast amount of young people who marry to satisfy their sexual urges. While some may say that this is acceptable to avoid sin but in the long run does it really avoid sin? In many, many cases two incompatible and possibly even immature people are joined together simply for the purpose of sex. After the thrill has worn off and day to day living sets in then the problems begin.
One of my relatives and close friends made this mistake, he married a young sister that he did'nt know very well. They were both 19 at the time, within a year they had numerous altercations that led to both of them being detained by the police. Shortly afterward they got divorced, but by that time they had a child together who now was caught in the middle of a nasty seperation. Their problems were so severe that even to this day their entire families are at odds with each other.
Another experience involves one of my friends, he had been in trouble several times over the years for fornication. When he was disfellowshipped for the 2nd time he decided that he would get married to try and avoid any future problems in that area. To make a long story short because of marital problems he recently tried to commit suicide by dousing himself in kerosene and lighting himself with a match. Fortunately someone found him and stopped him before he could hurt himself.
From the experiences I've seen, it appears that many people end up in extremely bad situations by marrying too young and for the wrong reasons. It makes me wonder if they would have been better off just receiving counsel for pre-marital sex as opposed to all the emotional trauma from the result of a rushed marriage. Why would we be given such powerful sexual urges and then be forced to be miserable because we can't fulfill those desires or either make a unwise choice in a marriage partner?
I'm sure many people feel the same way I do about this. It just does'nt make sense.